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Another dreaded "new guy" thread. Any help would be most welcome. Yes it's long and somewhat detailed. If thats not your thing please ignore.
Us:
Married 4 years, two kids. Started dating in 2000 when she was 20. (I was 33) Took some time off then re-united and got hitched.
Always a good and healthy sex life over the years. Plenty of mild experimentation.
After the first baby the sex dried up quite a bit. During the second pregnancy she became a very horny mommy. Lots of activity.
Then earlier in the year she started engaging in elaborate text sex messaging. (we both travel a lot and dont actually live together) It was really different stuff than our norm. Nothing BDSM but it was heading there.
Now, over the past summer, she has made it clear she wants to be my sex slave. (whatever that means)
Mosty over text but during the rare times we are actually together without the kids she has made her intentions most clear. We have had several sessions that include many of the simpler and more popular aspects of this. Bondage, sense depravation, toys..stuff like that. But the more important thing is her verbal willingness to be dominated in every way possible.
I should mention that she is incredably dominant during most of the day. And has been as long as I have known her. We work together and there is no question she is the boss. (although I "am" the company)
Anyway, now she wants to be a full time slave. She is doing more reading than I and (because of her nature) being what some people call a "pushy bottom". She cannot help herself. But im sure most of that issue will go away as soon as I step up and Become the master she wants me to be.
Here is where I need help:
Is this sort of reaction common from women in her circumstance?
She has read a great deal and wants "training". While I'm sure that means a lot of different things to different people what is an easy way (and what are the goals) of what is commonly called "training" a "slave". I can say she is in love with her collar and leash. (sorry, no ceremony, I just snapped on her neck one night and she went wild. She desires it every day and wants to start wearing it out on the town (hidden for now).
About me: I should say I am enjoying her interest. But wow, it has come on strong and quickly. I have always liked sex to be fairly fun and romantic. Never had much use for "whips and chains" but if my wife wants that I am an eager participant. And the way it has turned her around in both the "board room and the bedroom" is astonishing.
But, and be honest here, does all this slave/ master stuff spoil good old fashioned sex? I would like to find a balance between giving her what she wants and still having an honest romp once in a while.
Anyway, I have a million questions about details of SM but wanted to start out with my most basic thoughts.
Many thanks in advance,
Wu
Us:
Married 4 years, two kids. Started dating in 2000 when she was 20. (I was 33) Took some time off then re-united and got hitched.
Always a good and healthy sex life over the years. Plenty of mild experimentation.
After the first baby the sex dried up quite a bit. During the second pregnancy she became a very horny mommy. Lots of activity.
Then earlier in the year she started engaging in elaborate text sex messaging. (we both travel a lot and dont actually live together) It was really different stuff than our norm. Nothing BDSM but it was heading there.
Now, over the past summer, she has made it clear she wants to be my sex slave. (whatever that means)
Mosty over text but during the rare times we are actually together without the kids she has made her intentions most clear. We have had several sessions that include many of the simpler and more popular aspects of this. Bondage, sense depravation, toys..stuff like that. But the more important thing is her verbal willingness to be dominated in every way possible.
I should mention that she is incredably dominant during most of the day. And has been as long as I have known her. We work together and there is no question she is the boss. (although I "am" the company)
Anyway, now she wants to be a full time slave. She is doing more reading than I and (because of her nature) being what some people call a "pushy bottom". She cannot help herself. But im sure most of that issue will go away as soon as I step up and Become the master she wants me to be.
Here is where I need help:
Is this sort of reaction common from women in her circumstance?
She has read a great deal and wants "training". While I'm sure that means a lot of different things to different people what is an easy way (and what are the goals) of what is commonly called "training" a "slave". I can say she is in love with her collar and leash. (sorry, no ceremony, I just snapped on her neck one night and she went wild. She desires it every day and wants to start wearing it out on the town (hidden for now).
About me: I should say I am enjoying her interest. But wow, it has come on strong and quickly. I have always liked sex to be fairly fun and romantic. Never had much use for "whips and chains" but if my wife wants that I am an eager participant. And the way it has turned her around in both the "board room and the bedroom" is astonishing.
But, and be honest here, does all this slave/ master stuff spoil good old fashioned sex? I would like to find a balance between giving her what she wants and still having an honest romp once in a while.
Anyway, I have a million questions about details of SM but wanted to start out with my most basic thoughts.
Many thanks in advance,
Wu
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