My boyfriend and I are relatively new to BDSM and I was wondering how I could get him to come up with ideas for scenes to play out or ways to humiliate me on his own. But so far he just asks me to tell him the things that I like, and I find it much more exciting when he can think of things for himself. On top of that I want to do the things that HE likes rather than just what I do, because I want to please him and not me! (which I have of course told him) I showed him links to some of the threads on here to give him some ideas, but he just doesn't "find anything" (either that or he is too afraid to come up with something that I might not like, which he denies). It seems like he would just rather I choose everything we do, which doesn't make me feel like a sub at all How do I solve this problem??