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Your behavior in social situations with other kinksters is largely determined by two things, the rules your dom gives you and the level of protocol of the event.
If your dom tells you not to talk to others, or to stay by his side, or to stay in one place until summoned, then you follow those instructions. So rather than asking us how to behave, ask your dom for some rules.
Events can broadly be classified as low protocol or high protocol events. Low protocol events are casual get-togethers such as munches, leather conventions, classes in kinky skills, and so on. These are places where everyone knows that everyone else is kinky, but the rules are fairly relaxed. In a low protocol situation, doms, subs, many leather runs and other kinksters generally interact fairly freely and there are few rules about behavior beyond simple courtesy and common sense (for example, "since this munch meets at the local mall's food court, wear street clothes and not fetish gear"). There might be a few rules (don't do obviously kinky things at the food court), but no one is likely to get upset if you as a sub talk to a dom (and if you do violate an unobvious rule, you'll probably get very gentle correction).
High protocol events are much less common. They are things like kinky dinner parties, formal play parties, formal leather ceremonies, and perhaps fetish balls. Such events often have specific rules of behavior ("subs remain silent unless spoken to; they keep their heads down and do not make eye contact unless ordered to", for example). In a high protocol event, the rules are part of the purpose of the event and ignoring them is being rude to other attendees--if you're unwilling to obey the ground rules, don't go to the event, and don't be surprised if you're spoken to for violating them.
If your dom's rules are stricter than the event's rules, follow your dom's rules. If he tells you not to speak up at the munch unless spoken to, then don't speak unless spoken to. But if your dom's rules are in conflict with the event's rules, follow the event's rules and explain why you're not obeying your dom. At a low protocol event, the few rules there are often are for the safety, legality, and anonymity of the whole group. Don't wear obvious fetish gear to a munch, because you'll be calling attention to the whole group and some of the members will really not appreciate that. At a high protocol event, following the ground rules is the price of admission because the rules are the whole point of the event; violating them just detracts from everyone else's enjoyment of the event.
Different social scenes have their own rules about dom/sub interaction. It used to be (in the 70 and 80s) that at some gay leather bars, subs were not supposed to talk to doms unless the dom indicated that he wished to be approached (by speaking to the sub or nodding to him or something). Doms were not supposed to talk to a collared sub (since that would be intruding on another dom's territory). But that scene is pretty much dead, and I highly doubt that you could find a bar that still followed those rules. If you're unsure what the rules are in a particular setting, ask an experienced sub to explain the rules to you.
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