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I talk about it in the Newcomer's FAQ. One important basic rule is that not every sub is a good candidate for more serious verbal abuse. My feeling is that a sub needs to have a solid sense of self-worth in order for verbal abuse to be healthy for them. Subs with a strong sense of ego can find humiliation to be a delicious push back against their normal social standing, but those who have a weak sense of self-worth are in danger of internalizing the abuse and reading it as confirmation of their own self-doubt. So if your gf has a fragile sense of self-esteem, don't do it.
Also, even if she has a strong sense of worth, it's possible that she has weak points, particular insults she might be vulnerable to. For example, if she's really self-conscious about her body image, calling her a 'fat cow' might truly hurt her when calling her a 'dirty slut' might not. So be aware of the things she's sensitive about and don't work that into your play.
The thing to do is develop a large vocabulary of insults and obscene things. Over-repetition of the same insult can really drain verbal play of its edge. So build up as long a list of possible of vulgar nouns (bitch, whore, cunt, fucker, slut, pussy, hole, cocksucker, fucktoy, buttmunch...)and vulgar adjectives (horny, dirty, filthy, slutty, worthless, pathetic, goddam, fucking...)that you can string together in different ways. Then practice saying them with conviction. Verbal abuse mostly works when you say it in ways that sound like you're angry at the sub, like you're so angry that she's a dirty cunt that you just have to tell her.
Once you've mastered that, try the trick of insulting her and then demanding that she repeat the insult. "You're a filthy bitch, aren't you?" "Yes, sir, I'm a filthy bitch." It's one thing to be called a insult by someone; it's another thing all together to have to validate the insult by repeating it. It makes the sub complicit in the humiliation.
Then explore more complicated verbal activity, like describing her, her body, and what you're going to do to her. "I'm gonna fuck your worthless pussy til you're begging me to stop." "You're nothing but a set of holes for me to use any way I like, bitch. When I'm done using one hole I'm gonna move on to a different one." Reducing a sub to body parts can humiliate her by dehumanizing her. You can also make rude remarks about her body (again, assuming she's not embarrassed about her body, but many people are, so tread lightly).
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