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BG, while i understand that your dom of choice may have been doing "this" for 5 years, that doesn't nessasrily mean he's doing it right. Their is a methodology and a sociology behind everything a dom does and doesn't do, and I'm telling you from experience, that as its been pointed out, there are many red flags. Now don't get me wrong, im not a naysayer or wishing to rain on anyones parade, in fact I generally wish everyone the best. We all have our kinks and our own chains to rattle, my goal is to make sure you don't end up with such a negative experience in the long run, that you no longer wish to rattle those proverbial chains.
I'm in agreeance that things have progressed rather fast in your short period of time, and since were only seeing your side of the relationship, we have to take everything on the value of what you say, and in those statements the red flags of an unfamiliar dom "playing" at bdsm are apparent.
Here are some questions to ask, so that you can be more at ease; and if the answers aren't to your liking, don't be afraid to walk away and find a new dom. Believe me, their are many of us out there, just be sure you know exactly what your looking for and dont be impatient, trust me, you'll find it.
1) understanding he's been doing this for 5 years, how long was his longest engagement?
2) how long was the shortest?
3) how many has he had in 5 years?
These will help you determine how serious he is about a subs happiness. It helps you, as a potential new sub to determine if he generally cares about you, or if this is more for his self gratification.
4)Can you talk to some of his old subs?
this can be for a few reasons.
a) to see if you can gather some tips on how to please him
b) to see if you fit the profile of his previous subs
c) to see if their are any negative statements about how they were treated
these may help you to see a recurring pattern. If they say he moved fast, or they felt pressured, or they were inexperienced, well, you get the picture...
5) if its your fantasy to be in a ffm threesome, then why is it not being done on your time table?
having it forced on you, no matter how much of a fantasy of yours it is, will make it a less enjoyable time. a month isnt enough time to select a partner who not only is comfortable enough with you, but also your dom, and be willing enough to join both of you in bed. Most relationships take weeks if not months to build the kind of trust your discussing, and anyone willing to rush into it is simply another red flag.
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