BDSM without sex

sharik · Dec 10, 2007

Hi,

Can you imagine yourself having BDSM relations without sex (classic, anal, oral)? Or alternatively BDSM and sex are inseparable for you?

sharik

slaveduties · Dec 13, 2007

cant imagine that it so painful with out pleasure

SMaster · Dec 15, 2007

Sex is a gift to a slave in a BDSM relations. For this reason, I am against sex in usual BDSM sessions. On the other hand, if it would give pleasure to the Dom and pain to the sub, Dom may live sex with slave while slave is suffering with bondage or additional BDSM tools.

Eventually BDSM and sex are two different things.

raven1083 · Dec 23, 2007

i guess it wont work because the two must be present in order to experience maximum satisfaction

CNJ4IT · Dec 29, 2007

HMMM

Part of the beauty of BDSM is the release either controlled, withheld but in all cases its the release that does it for me.

GhostWalker · Dec 30, 2007

sorry to disagree

raven1083 said:
i guess it wont work because the two must be present in order to experience maximum satisfaction

I disagree sex is not required for satisfaction.

The giving.receiving of pain is gratification enough.

Trained · Jan 1, 2008

Second try - I discovered I was a masochist well before I discovered sex. While the BDSM invariably makes me horny, I do see them as separate. If I had to give up one or the other, I think it would be easier to give up the sex.

Mako · Jan 12, 2008

i am not even sure if the question makes sense....i am a sub and BDSM and sex are not even related....i like submitting and being tortured just for my dommes pleasure....in fact i rarely get an erection while being tortured...if she is dressed in a really hot outfit i may get erect at the start but once the pain begins, it is not a sexual experience for me....Sometimes when we are finished it is fun to masturbate for her viewing pleasure...but again, the whole experience is really not sexual at all.

DearElliot · Jan 21, 2008

I think people fall into different categories, and I have known some (but not many) who wish to serve without receiving sexual relief. I know of some men who perform labor and then leave, or go sleep in the corner...but that isnt what I am about,. I feel in BDSM there are many different facets and no one facet is more correcct than another, it is simply whatever gives you the pleasure. For me sexual degradation pain and pleasure is the key to BDSM

holkeft · Jan 29, 2008

I am much more interested in Humiliation and Surrendering Control than I am in Severe Pain and I have found that expressions of sexuality can really heighten the intensity of a session. In Europe it seems more Dommes are comfortable using sexual play to enhance a session (although most stop short of actual intercourse). I'd like to see some of that European influence head over here!

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