BDSM without sex

ReallyGreen · Apr 19, 2008

Most of my BDSM is at clubs with pro-Dommes. There is never sex, some will let you masturbate after a session, others make you wait till they leave (or just use the men's room on the way out to smoke).

When I play with my wife (D/s-lite™, "less pain/less fulfilling") there usually sex involved.

Naturally I prefer the no-sex BDSM with people who know what their doing. Or maybe theres just the mental block involved with no being able to be dominated entirely by someone who you've fucked elevty-thousand times over the years..... I dunno.

west01 · Apr 21, 2008

I'm sometimes alowed to have sex with my dom, but not often, only when she wants

RRR1609 · Mar 28, 2009

My master and I have never had sex and do not plan on doing so. We are in the relationship because he likes being in control, and I like being controlled. We don't want sex to taint the relationship. If we ever end up getting married, then we will have sex. However, our relationship is amazing. He fulfills everything I need. So no, sex is not required in BDSM.

Obedient Little Puppy · Mar 28, 2009

It's probably not necessary, although I do like it. Just standard and oral right now, but my anal training starts next weekend. I'm not an anal virgin, but it's been a very long time, so I'm nervous, but excited too

Prissy · Mar 28, 2009

I don't see much sexual actioon, because where I live I am not legal for him. just a few more weeks..., and that scares me.

Leilani · Mar 28, 2009

The two aren't the same, but they do tend to go hand in hand for me.

MrAero · Mar 28, 2009

Sex, or for the most part anything sexual, is not a part of my Dom/sub relationship. My sub and I both feel that sexual things have a place only in a very committed relationship, and have decided to leave that aspect out of our relationship for now.

Sparrow69 · May 5, 2009

Sex is not a part of my BDSM relationships. While I may ask a sub to do something sexual, its more for the humiliation factor, a comfort factor to release tension or stress, but I never actively choose to combine the two.

Nyx · May 5, 2009

That's a very good point, Sparrow.

subspace · May 6, 2009

It would be interesting to go by gender on this question. By glance it seems that most of the female subs want sex with BDSM whereas the men, both Dom and sub can take it or leave it.

I always go into a BDSM relationship thinking I want the sexual release but some of the most satisfying BDSM experiences I have had had no sex involved. Ultimately the control exuded by the Dom is the turn on and if I have pleased him that is more than enough.

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