hi everyone! new here, but i've done some lurking in the past. my SO and i have been involved in some bdsm play for almost 2 years. he's the dom and i'm the sub. i got pregnant last april and we now have a beautiful baby. while i was pregnant it was hard to continue with our usual activities safely and the bdsm aspects of our relationship were slowly phased out as the pregnancy progressed. by the end we weren't really having sex at all. it's been 9 weeks since the birth and all that has happened is oral, once and weeks ago, since it was a pretty traumatic experience, and quite frankly i'm terrified of how badly it will hurt the first time. but the bigger problem is it's hard to feel it anymore. i've been turned on by bdsm since i started caring about sex. it's a big part of who i am and it was an amazing experience to have with my SO. i'm naturally dominate in life and i think since we've gone so long we sort of switched roles without meaning to and now it's hard for me to be turned on. plus, everything feels so much more dirty now that i have a sweet little angel to take care of. i guess what i'm asking is, has anyone had experience having a baby in a dom/sub relationship? or does anyone have any advice for me? i hate that this was such a big part of my life and is now non-existent. i'm not sure how to get back in. thanks in advance!