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Watching porn won't hurt (pardon the pun), but most of the porn is fairly hardcore, and may therefore intimidate him a little. Also, in porn you never see the safety precautions, and often don't see the rope work, and it's hard to figure out the rules of flogging (where not to hit, etc) from it. The safety stuff usually occurs off-camera, and the rope work is often edited out (because the dom in the scene isn't the rope master).
But you two could watch a porn video and then talk about what parts turned you on. That would give you ideas for what to explore, read up on, and so on.
One important point for him to understand is that being a dom is work. It takes practice to get good at flogging, you have to read up on techniques and safety, and you have to think about what you're doing. The more control you have over a sub, the more work you're doing. Now the sub compensates to some extent through service--I may have to be thinking a lot about the next phase of my slave's training, but he is mopping the kitchen for me so I have some free time to do that thinking. But control brings responsibility and obligation. Just as I would have no respect for a man who freeloads off his girlfriend and doesn't get a job, I would have little respect for a dom who wants control but doesn't accept the burdens of dominance. So I do think you might have to have a talk with him about what being a dom involves. This is another reason to give him time--rather than pressing him to read a ton of books right now, let him do a little reading here and there as you two explore.
Another option would be to find a teacher. Many fetish conventions offer classes on specific skills, and there are dom (and subs) out there who are willing to mentor a newbie. So perhaps finding your local munch and socializing with other kinksters would be a good idea.
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