This is my first post here and I was hoping that some of the folks on here could give me some assistance. I'm a male that has had an interest in BDSM since a young age. In the past few years in particular I've done a lot of reading online and I have a pretty good feel for the scene, its practices, and what I'd be looking for if I were to incorporate it into a relationship. I've been in a relationship with a wonderful woman for almost 2 years now and we've experimented with BDSM a few times during that time. When we did play, we switched between one another each time so that we both experienced the dominant and submissive role. In the end, she preferred the dominant role and I preferred the submissive role (which was no surprise to me). We both also took a cursory read through Gloria Brame's "Different Loving". At the current time we're not that sexually active and I'm looking to see if she might be interested in adding a steady BDSM element to our relationship to add something special both sexually and otherwise. I'd love to be able to serve her and work towards a more 24/7 arrangement and be collared. I've read a bunch of things online about incorporating BDSM into an existing relationship and I've found some useful advice. I'm not afraid of bringing this up to her as she's open minded, but I'm still looking for the best way. Through my research I've found a few books that might be a good springboard and I wanted to get some feedback on whether they are worth the read between the two of us. "The Mistress Manual" by Mistress Lorelei "The Art of Sensual Female Dominance: A Guide for Women" by Claudia Varrin Any feedback you could give me on approaching this topic with her would be great. Sorry for the long post.