Good movies?

Discussion in 'General BDSM discussions' started by not so vanilla, Mar 27, 2013.

  1. not so vanilla

    not so vanilla New Member

    Hi, I used to post a lot a while ago but we had to put things on hold because of health problems. I still lurk around lots though! Basically we are trying to start again in entering a bedroom only D/s relationship within our marriage. My husband had asked me to look for some good movies to watch together.
    We have watched Secretary but I want something different. I've searched the internet for hours but can't find anything that really shows the underlying aspects of BDSM if that makes sense?
    As my husband is very new to being a dom I just wanted something that might give him an understanding of the relationship aswell as just the physical side. At the same time I want it to keep him interested if you get my meaning!
    I don't feel like I'm explaining myself very well! But does anyone have any suggestions? We're both pretty new to it all and although I've read loads my husband is only just beginning to research (loads of my past posts have been about this!) and I feel loads of the stuff on the internet I've seen so far are way out of our depths as beginners and as I said don't really show the dynamics of it all.
    Thanks for reading.
  2. sebastian

    sebastian Active Member

    NSV: Unfortunately, there really isn't much out there beyond the porn, and that obviously doesn't help make sense of what a D/s relationship might actually look like. However, as a gay man, I had a strong emotional reaction to two movies that aren't specifically about D/s relationships.

    In the Lord of the Rings Trilogy, the most meaningful relationship in the film is between Frodo and Sam. It's not a romantic or sexual relationship at all (Sam is shown as being hetero, in fact), but the essence of their relationship is that Sam is Frodo's submissive. Sam is deeply devoted to serving Frodo (he's a cook, gardener, and servant), and on several occasions during the movie he makes very moving statements about his complete devotion to Frodo--in the first movie he risks drowning to persuade Frodo to take him along. He says at one point "I can't carry the Ring, but I can carry you!" To me, those scenes capture something I very much want from my slave.

    A similar thing happens in Channing Tatum's The Eagle. He plays a Roman soldier who travels into modern Scotland seeking to recover the military standard his father lost. He's accompanied by a slave whose life he saved. As they move out of Roman society, there is nothing to force the slave to continue to be a slave to him, and yet the slave serves him out of a sense of loyalty to the man who rescued him. The sense of loyalty that the slave demonstrates is again, for me, the essence of a modern master-slave relationship: one man voluntarily agreeing to accept another man as his superior and to serve him out of emotional rather than legal motives.

    I realize that hetero audiences might not read the movie that way, and probably won't feel the same emotional pull that I felt when I watched them, but these two movies really express something about the essence of what I want, rather than the form of it.
  3. Smallest

    Smallest Moderator

    Books are a way more likely bet. I highly recommend anything by Andre Santhomas.
  4. bakerboy

    bakerboy Member

  5. not so vanilla

    not so vanilla New Member

    Thanks for the suggestions, will watch lord of the rings again keeping in mind what you said Sebastian.
    I think you're right Smallest about books. I love reading but mu husband is not too keen! Think hes begining to come around though!
    thanks again all.
  6. bakerboy

    bakerboy Member

    Also look up movie

    The Pet


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