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I'm not sure I understand--it would help if you were more careful about punctuation. But here's what I'm understanding from your post: You and your ex got curious about BDSM. A friend of the family was staying with you, BDSM came up and he offered to help teach you how to dom. He kissed your gf and this led to your gf leaving you and getting together with him. Do I have that right?
The only people who understand what happened are your ex-gf and this other guy. I can't really tell you what they were thinking. But it sounds like this guy did something doms are not supposed to do--he failed to respect your rights over your sub (assuming she had agreed to be your sub). A sub is, to some extent, the property of her dom (even if she's not a full slave, the dom still, I think, has 'first dibs' on her until she ends the relationship or renegotiates the rules). So another dom should only use a sub with the permission of the sub's dom, especially if the other dom says he's going to help mentor you. So basically, this guy was a dick, abused his position as a more experienced dom, and used it to win your sub from you. That's shitty. It happens, but it's shitty.
But your gf is also a factor in what happened. As a novice sub, she's not a full slave, and she's free to sub for whomever she wants. So perhaps she wan't happy in the relationship with you and just decided to leave for a new guy. Or maybe she decided that you weren't sufficiently dominant for her to meet her needs, and she saw this guy and decided he was pushing her buttons better than you. Or maybe he persuaded her that he's better/kinkier/safer/sexier/dommer than you are and she trusts him because he's more experienced, and he used that trust to win her over. Maybe she treated you badly, or maybe she's naive and he's really to blame.
Regardless, she left you for another guy. I'm sorry. That's really painful and confusing. I've been there and it was horrible for me. My husband of 8 years left me, no joke, because I wasn't fat enough for him. So I entirely empathize.
Here's my advice. Drown your sorrows for a little while with beer/video games/one-night stands/French films/etc. Then pick yourself up and look for a new gf. You're a little older, a little wiser, and a little more knowledgeable about kink than you were. You'll find a new gf, maybe one who's kinkier than the old one, and you'll be able to keep exploring your kinks. Just don't go all emo and decide she was your one true love and now you'll be tragic and black-haired your whole life. Life's too short to be emo.
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