Got invited to a fetish show, don't know what to wear.

Discussion in 'General BDSM discussions' started by Tallest, Mar 2, 2012.

  1. Tallest

    Tallest New Member

    Smallest and I got asked by one of her friends to come to a fetish show, And this is the Dress Code. I sent them an email saying that my pet will be dressed up, and on a collar/chain, but I don't have any fetish clothing or much money to buy it. They replied, suggesting that I get bodypainted, or wear electrical tape over my nipples.
    That, of course, if you know smallest and I, will not do. I don't want to dress up as a msub and look like a fool at a show, but I also want to get in.

    I'm worried about the dress code, because besides smallest I don't have much fetishy to wear. We're mostly into rope/chain bondage, but I don't want to be covered in ropes and look like I want to get tied. I don't think they'll pass me just for walking my pet on a chain, can anyone suggest something to wear? I don't have money for expensive fetish gear, and covering everything in electrical tape feels too trashy. I'd wear something semi-formal, but again I don't think they'd consider it a coherent ensemble (well dressed man and his pet) and I don't want to ruin anything nice at a club.

    I had been thinking of wearing new black jeans and a black shirt, but they won't let those. I had also been considering wearing a dress shirt that I have with epaulettes, and making a lanyard out of the same bright chain that smallest's leash is made of, but I'm not sure if that means something in the fetish community and I don't want to give off the wrong ideas. I have lots of chain and rope and electrical tape, but nothing leather (besides my work boots), and no money to purchase any.

    What would you suggest I wear?
  2. glasgow-sub

    glasgow-sub New Member

    You could maybe wear your smart black trousers and shirt, and get a white priests collar, and a cross on a chain and go as a priest!? It says religious wear is acceptable? Or look into hiring a kilt for the evening. Kilts are expensive, but if you could find some place where you could hire one for the evening it wouldn't be too pricey. They seem mega strict, huh? Anyway, hopefully my suggestions might help you out.
  3. Smallest

    Smallest Moderator

    They are insanely strict, and we don't really want to wear costumes for the sake of wearing costumes; we want to keep in what's our dynamic.

    I'm confused on why kilts are allowed when formal pants are not, though. We were talking about it, and equating it to the things that are allowed. We joked, is it because kilts are so edgy and crazy, or that they're totally genderbending, or that they're period wear, or...
    Just joking, of course.
  4. Knots

    Knots Member

    I don't really know what to suggest, it seems it's a tricky scenario without money.

    I personally wouldn't go to such a fetish show.
  5. edjixxx

    edjixxx Member

    Damn, tomorrow, not a lot of time to work with. How about a variation of Batman/catwoman type scenario. Something like a black satin/silk sheet with black body paint or maybe bondage tape? Could work, be low budget.....definitely would get stared at in the street.....
  6. master jey

    master jey Moderator

    doctor and nurse/patient
    priest and nun
    cop and arrested prostitute
    Rider and pony

    can't come up with anything better sorry

    It's not right that they don't let dominant men wear classical Dom outfit black jeans and black shirt or formal suit
    Last edited: Mar 2, 2012
  7. edjixxx

    edjixxx Member

    Armbands, the like. I think I'd fail the entry test. People would stare, not for the reasons the club is looking for, lol
  8. glasgow-sub

    glasgow-sub New Member

    It's crazy, because in scotland, where I'm from, there's nothing taboo about wearing a kilt, it's just our version of traditional formal wear. It's not fetish wear at all. Men wear kilts to weddings etc, and you most definately wouldn't get stared at walking down the street in one. Their theory is strange, they're basically asking that Dom's don't wear what they usually wear, what they feel comfortable in, and something which makes people automatically want to respect them. Maybe Master Jey has the right idea - a cop and arrested prostitute!? Best of luck with finding something anyways, hope you have a wicked night! :)
  9. Kor

    Kor Member

    How about black semi-formal, hair greased back, some dark eye shadow, and fangs?

    Vampires are still trendy, at least for the next few months...
  10. sebastian

    sebastian Active Member

    You say you don't like doing costumes, but when you're out in public at a fetish show, you pretty much have to do some sort of costume, because the point of a fetish show is to watch the participants wearing their fetish drag, and if there's a dress code, all attendees are participants. Speaking as someone who wears leather in public on occasion, I can testify that there is a very big difference between being in a group where some people are wearing their gear and being in a group where everyone is in their gear. This show is clearly intended to be one of the latter; the organizers understand that having people dressed in street clothes really water down the sexual vibe of an event. So, sad to say, you're going to have dress up to get into this event.

    The basic leather leather is blue or black jeans, plain black or white t-shirt , black boots, and a biker jacket. But you'd need a biker jacket. If you have a biker jacket, put a pair of handcuffs or a chain on your left epaulette, or carry a crop of similar toy on your left hip.

    Another option, but it might require some modest cash outlay, would be to put together a simple cop outfit. Your local army surplus store probably sells black uniform pants and shirts, and your local uniform supply store definitely does. Buy a black uniform shirt (with epaulettes), and a security officer's badge. Shouldn't cost more than about $30-40 (and if you have a shirt that will do, even less). Buy a cheap name badge to wear over the officer's badge. Sew an American flag patch onto one sleeve at the shoulder. Wear it with a plain black belt and black boots or dress shoes.
  11. master jey

    master jey Moderator

    looks pretty easy but needs more kinky elements
  12. Smallest

    Smallest Moderator

    Jey, am I imagining things or have I not seen you in ages?Also if I had pony gear I would be pretty stoked on that suggestion.

    There's a big argument about oms not being able to just wear black on the event page on fetlife, but we're not getting too involved. Some of the people are viciously against the fact that they can't just wear a t-shirt from the other local fetish group.

    Glasgow- The bit about kilts was what I was getting at. We weren't able to come up with any reasons that actually made sense for them.

    Kor- semi-formal's not allowed. It has to be period wear or all-out in tailcoats, etc.

    Sebby- I'm not sure whether even that would be allowed. Jeans AND a jacket you could wear out, you know. They're pretty picky, although an admin said they probably wouldn't turn people away.

    I think I'll leave opinions (and possibilities) of other things to Sir, he's just out right now, and I'm awake unexpectedly.
  13. sebastian

    sebastian Active Member

    Well, it sounds like they are trying to stage a pretty formal fetish ball. If that's the case, perhaps this isn't the event for you. If it's a regular thing, perhaps you should plan to attend the next one, and save up for appropriate outfits.
  14. Smallest

    Smallest Moderator

    They'll accept duct-taped jeans as "PVC pants," so formal might not be the right word. If it weren't for the 'no jeans, no slacks' rule, wed have something sorted out by now :/
  15. sebastian

    sebastian Active Member

    Right at the bottom of the flyer Tallest posted is a note that if you don't have suitable gear, you should bring what you do have and show up to the Makeover pre-event. So it looks like they're willing to work with people like you who want to participate but are having trouble putting something together.

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