sebastian
Active Member
MIRROR: Download from MEGA
Scrow, on reading these last pieces of information, I am inclined to revise my opinion that he's not a sex addict. The behaviors you're mentioning are all very common to porn addicts. My ex did number 3 so often that we pretty much agreed I would never attempt to initiate sex. It sounds clear to me that your husband has entirely destroyed your ability to trust him, which means that any effort that you might make to explore bdsm play with him will be a disaster. And of course, it's hard to have a functioning marriage without trust. It sounds like you've decided that divorce is your most reasonable choice, and it certainly looks like a reasonable choice to me. I'm sorry--I know how painful that can be.
My only piece of advice at this point is that you should remember that sex addiction is a disease, like alcoholism. Your husband may care deeply about you and be a very good man deep down, but his disease makes him do selfish, deceitful things that are hurtful to you. Until he recognizes his addiction and seeks treatment, he will not be able to stop doing these things. That's not a reason to not leave him, but I hope it can temper some of the pain and anger you feel.
My only piece of advice at this point is that you should remember that sex addiction is a disease, like alcoholism. Your husband may care deeply about you and be a very good man deep down, but his disease makes him do selfish, deceitful things that are hurtful to you. Until he recognizes his addiction and seeks treatment, he will not be able to stop doing these things. That's not a reason to not leave him, but I hope it can temper some of the pain and anger you feel.
Keep2share Premium PRO Account