What Am I?!

Discussion in 'General BDSM discussions' started by womaninablackdress, Feb 16, 2012.

  1. womaninablackdress

    womaninablackdress New Member

    Hi... This is my first post here and I am new in the forum. I would be grateful if members could help me figure out what I am. I basically (at one point) thought I was a Dom, because when I was younger and watched any BDSM porn, I would always prefer the dominant roles if I had to visualize myself in any. In real life, my sex life has been quite Vanilla, although I do enjoy leading, tying up and blindfolding my partner.

    I like orgasm torture and plays of that nature, but not really into physically hurting someone (no bruising, burning etc). I do however, think small levels of humiliation (knowing that the person wants to be humiliated) pleases me.

    Any ideas? Thanks!
  2. Smallest

    Smallest Moderator

    If you're asking whether you're a dom or a sub, though I agree with many others that it's not just black and white, I'd assume you're adom of some kind from wat you've said. Pain play isn't a requirement to domming.

    If you meant something else, I'd like to hear more background :)
  3. sebastian

    sebastian Active Member

    When asking this sort of question, you need to specify whether you like giving or receiving the things you're talking about.
  4. Smallest

    Smallest Moderator

    From her wording, it sounded as though it was giving, although the last list was a little ambiguous.
  5. sebastian

    sebastian Active Member

    That was my assumption as well, but it seems ambiguous to me.
  6. Knots

    Knots Member

    This ^^
  7. Aibo

    Aibo Member

    Yeah I jump on 'this' train also. Sorry couldn't resist. =)

    But seriously, many of us start out with switch tendencies to some degree, I did that also.
    And having that can actually be one advantage, since we can have some insight on what go on in the other persons head when we start to get going in reality.
    So even though some do complain about switches, it is only their own uncertainty that show.
    I happened to convert to the dominant side, and from what was said there. I have a slight hunch that womaninablackdress will end up there also.

    What we do and what level we end up with differs wildly, but most appear to have a tendency to get into more advanced play over time.
  8. l0v3ly

    l0v3ly New Member

    Like some other's have mentioned, wheither you are a dom or sub is not always that black and white. You may be a switch, where sometimes you prefer being the dom and other times prefer being the sub. That is pretty common. If you feel like you want to just stick to one, maybe give it a try from both sides and see which one feels right to you. From what you have said though, it seems like you might be more dominant. And it's even okay to consider yourself a dom although you may have some few submissive tendencies. For example, I consider myself a dom and only a dom, but there are some (not many really) more submissive things that I enjoy too. Don't limit yourself. :)

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