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decoyicus · Sep 7, 2010

thanks for the kind words Tumbl3 she gets pretty bad PMS and with the stress of her job and this entirely new sexual world we are exploring I think she might just be going over the top because of her emotions but I'm not sure, how women think has never been my strong point

sebastian · Sep 7, 2010

Decoy, thanks for the very kind words. It's sort of amusing to hear that, given that deep down I'm really a sadist. Few things get me hotter than listening to a boy begging me to stop what I'm doing.

Just take things slowly for now. If your gf is emotionally volatile right now, she will probably benefit a good deal from you being a firm, solid dom. Just tell her that you think the two of you need to take things one step at a time. You're the dom, so if you want to go slow at the moment, she needs to accept that. After she's calmed down, have another conversation about what she wants and go from there.

decoyicus · Sep 7, 2010

I think that if I start showing my dominant side out side of the bedroom start being an authority figure then begin with some small things around the house after she gets off her period this indulge her submissive side until I'm experienced enough to expand. she is at her sisters at the moment so I am pretty much just sitting her dwelling on it. whether starting with that stuff will help her or not is a mystery but I'm going to try all the stuff you suggested. I have also starting thinking that the reason she wants to make this leap is because her sex drive is bothering her she is always pretty horny when she is not on her period and likes to talk about sex and watch porn when she is. I could be totally wrong and its something completely different but I'm racking my brain trying to figure out what she is thinking

Tumbl3 · Sep 8, 2010

It sounds like she is just PMSing. I would let her finish her period and then talk about this again. Try not to let it get to you too much. We girls are just psychotic and weird on our periods.

decoyicus · Sep 8, 2010

she is usually horny and little bit emotional but its different this time I am definitely leaving this alone until she is done with it though

Tumbl3 · Sep 8, 2010

Well I've had outrageously emotional periods hit me out of no where. And you said she was stressed out with a new job? That might be it. Good idea to ride it out.

decoyicus · Sep 8, 2010

she usually just wants to cuddle on the couch whilst watching the worst television ever created but we have only been together 5 months so I probably haven't seen one of her more intense ones before as for her job its really stressing her out she just quit working at the gym to become a freelance personal trainer and it isnt going very well

Tumbl3 · Sep 8, 2010

Yeah it's definitely because she's stressed out. Here's something that works for me: if she comes over and you aren't sure how to treat her, just ask sincerely, "Is there anything I can do for you right now?"

And she might start crying if she's sensitive. If she does just hold her. If she just wants to be alone, don't be offended. Just be sincere.

It works very well for me. Hope it works for you too.

decoyicus · Sep 8, 2010

she is still at her sisters at the moment but when she gets home I will be sure to try that it doesn't really offend me I know women are kinda crazy when they are on (no offense) its just she keeps it all bottled up then lets it explode (last nights cup of tea incident was a prime example) I sometimes thinks she forgets how much I love her and that's I would do anything for her just to be happy I know that's bullshit and its just her emotions but it still getting me down

Tumbl3 · Sep 8, 2010

yeah I completely understand. And I'm not offended lol.

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