I was just wondering how some of you found yourselves where you are today in your relationships. I'm currently in a relationship, and we're wanting to try out the things we've always wanted sexually (BDSM being a big one for me), but I guess I'm a bit lost. I suppose I get the factual ways about it, but it's more the experience itself (sex if more than just science, isn't it?). So what I was wondering was, what were your first experiences like, and how did they lead you to where you are now? Furthermore, my apologies if this is in the wrong thread. I've been searching the internet all night with no real answers and I though I would just come out and ask.