Curious, how many of you...?

sluttysub

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As I'm sure you all know by now, I have been doing a lot of in depth thinking lately and I got to wondering, how many of you have always had a Dom or sub tendency and how many were never interested in this lifestyle until a significant other (or someone/something else) introduced you? How did you move from that fantasy to the lifestyle?

For myself, looking back through my life, I can now see that I have always had submissive tendencies. Even before my first sexual encounters, my fantasies all related to being dominated. Gradually over time it became a larger element in my desires until it finally became such a strong need that I could no longer keep quiet. When I was younger, I had no words for what I was feeling, what I wanted. I thought I was the odd man out and that something had to be wrong with me. There were times I felt dirty, guilty, and was thoroughly disgusted with myself for wanting such things. As I explored the internet, I finally discovered what it was that I had been craving all these years. And after searching sites and reading articles and first hand experiences (and now this new book :) ) I began to learn what a true D/s relationship was. I came to the realization that I wasn't so odd, that D/s relationships are not abusive, but loving and nurturing. That when done right, we can see right into our partner's soul.
(Of course there are the kinky fun parts too :D )
 
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Sate_Sprie

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I think I've always had sub tendencies, although I never had a name for it. I didn't like the pain and punishment aspect of it back then as much as I do now, that came along with actually pursuing it. It wasn't a pursued passion of mine, however, until my husband mentioned he was into it. I was already fond of him choking me and telling me what to do, so I guess he was testing the waters. ^_^
 
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sebastian

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I only realized recently that I was dominant, when a guy I was talking to online offered himself to me as a slave after I told him that like being a little aggressive in bed. I got wildly turned on by his offer and when I started wondering why, a light bulb went on and all these scattered parts of me suddenly made sense organized around the idea of being in control. You would have thought that the fact that I used to occasionally fantasize about tying guys up and beating them would have clued me in to my dominance, but no, somehow it took me 20 years to realize it.
 
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sluttysub

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Haha, SLP, you are so right! My husband tells me I'm a closet bi because I can get so turned on by other girls Edit: or at least the thought and visuals, I have yet to enjoy that pleasure. (another good fantasy of mine, but that's another post, lol).

Handcuff - good luck! :)

" You would have thought that the fact that I used to occasionally fantasize about tying guys up and beating them would have clued me in to my dominance"
Yes, Sebastian, that would be a huge hint! ;) Glad you have discovered it though!


"The problem is other people who don't see it as such a normal thing"
You are so right, Andy. I think this is why it has taken me so long to get the courage to bring this from the fantasy world into reality. I also think a lot of my feelings of disgust may have come from my strict upbringing. My father was a pastor and sex was very much a no-no. The impression I got was that it was to be limited and kinkiness was dirty. I'm glad to be finding myself though, no longer relying or allowing how I was raised to effect all of my decisions and feelings.
 
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Hopehavoc

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I never really thought about it in a sexual sense until recently. I knew that I liked being in control of men and I knew that I didn't mind if a girl was more controlling, in a relationship sense. But, I never extended these thoughts into the bedroom. When a girlfriend brought it up, it all made sense to me.

But, even having never really thought about it...I always knew that I was switch. Always knew that I could just as easily be in or out of control.
 
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