I know this may have been covered in an earlier post however, after a good amount of searching I cant find anything that really answers the two interconnected questions I have. 1. What are some things, as a dom, that you can do during the day, when your with your sub, to subtly remind them of the roles that you both allow each other to play out. In other words dose any one have suggestions little tasks or assignments to give, selecting an article of clothing to wear, or things as simple as asking with a wink and a smirk for them to get a drink for me to. I also would like some input on the mindset behind giving these tasks. I would be doing it with the intent of reinforcing the relationship and, again, as a light little reminder to us both that we play at giving and taking power. 2. I want to develop into the type of Top/Dom that is loving and caring in most aspects of a relationship but then can be assertive when we play. I am a hopeless romantic at heart that wants nothing more than to see my partner happy, fulfilled and content but how do I marry that with the other side of me that likes to take control in other aspects? I guess I am asking how do you convey, simultaneously, that you love and care for that person and they have just as much say in what happens in the relationship, both in and out of the D/s portion of things, but still be taken seriously when you do step into the dominating roll? I realize communication and just simply sitting down and talking with the person is a big key here but I am talking more the internal union of the two halves within myself and then the outward manifestation of that.