So, first of all, I must clear up my reason for being hesitant to seek support from the BDSM community. I've heard that some BDSM folks think of the Daddy/LG relationship as "gross." Unless they are grotesquely mislead, I cannot imagine how it would be anymore disturbing than the master/slave relationship or sadomasochism. It's not incest or pedophilia and in some cases (like mine) Daddy isn't much older! (My boyfriend and I are only a year apart.) Of course, there's a difference in opinion as to what a DLG relationship actually is- IMO, the below article outlines it perfectly. http://www.associatedcontent.com/article/956393/bdsm_101_daddy_dominants_and_their.html?cat=7 So my first question is what do you guys think about this?? I suppose this is unimportant, but since I cannot see your faces through my computer screen, I'd like to know if the subject meets raised eyebrows or accepting smiles... Also, while my personal values tell me I shouldn't be ashamed of my sexual self, there's always that nagging question in the back of my mind, "Am I sick?" I don't like having an entire relationship revolve around the DLG relationship, because I am FAR from submissive outside of the bedroom, and my boyfriend isn't as into it as I am. He LOVES the perks, but the roleplaying part is slightly awkward... Which leads to my second question: Anyone got any bright ideas on how to make my boyfriend enjoy this more? I think I'm doing everything I can, but maybe someone knows something else... Our first time REALLY getting into it was last weekend in a hotel room with some alcohol. He needed the alcohol for his nerves (roleplay of any kind makes him nervous) and my sex anxiety (long story). I want to be able to do this without any use of alcohol, as I do not believe that's healthy. But our night was, to say the least, amazing. I rarely do oral due to the fact that I have really bad associations with it (another long story), but I felt so safe with him as my Daddy, that we were doing oral 1/2 of the time, and I even let him grab onto and control my head (which I would have NEVER been comfortable with before). I actually enjoyed it! This was a plus for him, as he REALLY enjoys oral sex (givng/recieving) and he got to do both through out the session without asking and since he called his penis candy, I actually asked for it. I loved the way he took pleasure in using his little girl and tenderly put his hand over my mouth when I moaned too loud and said "Shhh... You don't want to wake up Mommy." (Okay, so it's rather creepy that I found that a turn-on, I realize, but it added to the mood of doing something we were not supposed to be.) Thinking about it makes me feel warm and tingly inside, and I could go on forever about this. The only sad part is that he said he probably could not work up enough courage to do it without alcohol He also isn't used to me being OK with this kind of thing, so it's a bit awkward for him, and I think he MIGHT prefer being submissive over being dominant. This isn't a huge problem, because I'm also willing to fulfill his needs, but it's got to be giv/take. He is also very sensitive to criticism in this area. I asked him if getting a mentor would be a good idea, and he did not like that idea one bit. A mentor is out of the question, but he said he'd accept advice over email from another person. IDK... Any ideas guys??? Thanks in advance!!