BDSM Club...First Visit.....Interview tonight......

Discussion in 'General BDSM discussions' started by fdxjettech, Oct 5, 2010.

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  1. fdxjettech

    fdxjettech New Member

    My pet and I are having our membership interview For Impact of Memphis tonight. It has only been six weeks since we started exploring this side of our selves. Naturally we are a little nervous about all this. What advice can you guys give us about what we are about to experience. We don't have a clue as to what to expect.
     
  2. sebastian

    sebastian Active Member

    I have absolutely no personal experience with this sort of thing, so take my comments with a salt shaker. But my advice would be to be honest about your level of experience. Don't try to impress them with how kinky you are. Just explain why you're interested and what you're interested in. Also, you might want to emphasize that you understand the importance of safe play and show that you understand the safety basics of whatever forms of play you are interested in, such as safewords. If there's an opportunity, you might ask them some questions, such as what role the dungeon master plays in the club or what sorts of safety precautions they take (for example, do they have a first aid kit available?), that show you're aware that this isn't just a wild orgy.

    If they turn you down (and I have no idea if that happens a lot), ask them why and what they would require for you to pass.
     
  3. fdxjettech

    fdxjettech New Member

    Thanks Sebastian, for the advice I'll keep all that in mind.....Has anyone here been to one of these?
     
  4. L8NightQ

    L8NightQ Member

    Hi fdx -

    Just curious. Since you are so new to this, why are you doing this?

    Maybe it's just me, but since you're asking.... I don't have the warm and fuzzies about you guys jumping in with the seasoned ones yet.

    Prior to this new interest you have in BDSM, did you like public sex before?

    Do you understand what you want from each other in this kind of environment? Do you want others to play with your pet? Does she want others to play with her? Is it just exhibitionism?

    How did you get to this without knowing what's in store?

    Maybe there's something missing.
     
  5. sillylittlepet

    sillylittlepet Active Member

    I also have no expierence with this (clubs interview for memberships?)
    but I think honesty and enthusiasm go a long way
     
  6. fdxjettech

    fdxjettech New Member

    l8nite

    Well I've always been the jump in with both feet kinda guy, so here we go. we had the interview last night It was basically a meeting with a member of the committee. it was basically and Q @ A. they wanted to know we weren't cops or reporters bent on taking them down.

    I've always been a little bit of an exhibitionist and my wife has too. I think the first time in we will only watch or play lightly and most definitely only play with each other right now. I will be on high alert the first time there till i get the feel of the place. I will report back to you guys on the experience.

    Thank you for your concern and comments
     
  7. L8NightQ

    L8NightQ Member

    Makes sense to me.

    Hope to hear how things went.

    Welcome to the forum.
     
  8. sebastian

    sebastian Active Member

    With a club, learning the rules and etiquette before you start playing is a very good idea. Many of the basicsxare just common sense. Don't talk during someone else's scene. Don't join a scene unless invited. Don't presume a sub is available for play--ask. If something someone is doing looks dangerous, speak to the dungeon master and let him/her decide--what looks dangerous might just be someone with more skill and experience than you. Let us know how it goes.
     
  9. fdxjettech

    fdxjettech New Member

    I agree Sebastian. The etiquette is very important. I think we will probably wait to attend the new comers night the first weekend of November. But I really want to attend the Halloween Costume ball. This years theme is "my fucked up fairy tale". I may go and just observe once if not twice before we start to participate. We were very vanilla before we decided to go on this adventure together.

    So I take it you've attended one of these clubs?
     
  10. sebastian

    sebastian Active Member

    Nope. But a lot of writings about sm etiquette talk about the common mistakes people make at such clubs. Closest I've gotten is IML, which was quite eye-opening in its own right, but rather different.
     
  11. fdxjettech

    fdxjettech New Member

    Well, we did it. we went to the club last night. It was really cool. We signed a waiver and were given the newbies tour by the dungeon monitor, who happened to be an elderly transvestite fellow named Ron (Rhonda?) Then we went to the bar and social area. We were there on a light night. only about a dozen people were there, which was great, as we were really nervous.

    We introduced our selves to the regulars and sat at the bar and had a drink. there is no alcohol allowed on the premises for safety reasons. But boy I sure could have used one to calm the nerves.

    Everyone was swell, we talked and chatted for about an hour and got really comfortable. We went for a walk through the dungeons and just looked more slowly for our selves. There are two open dungeons and three private rooms here. There are a large and small dungeon that are well equipped for just about anything you want to do to a person. there are two or three of those cross things, one of them even turns a person up side down. they have a rack. You know, the old medieval stretch you kind. my sub saw that and I could tell she wanted to try it. I talked her into stripping down to her undies and put her feet in the blocks and tied her hands. After stretching her out I flogged and cropped her. At some point a spectator, handed me a frat paddle and I wore her ass out with it for a few minutes. It was very strange to have people walking by and watching us perform what has always before been a private thing. It was at once intimidating and exhilarating. After we finished we went and socialized some more and then watched some other people peform there scenes. It was really something to watch. To see it on a download is one thing to watch it live is something else.

    All in all I would say the evening was a positive one. We had fun, met nice people, got some good practice in having an open mind, which is not such an easy feat at my age...lol.
    we will definitely go again. If ya'll ever get the chance you should give it a try. Love it or hate it you wont soon for get it.
     
  12. war1022

    war1022 New Member

    Your Own Private Club

    Another thing to look into fdxjettech is your own club. It takes some doing but to us in the club, well worth the effort. We currently have seven couples in the group and have a very stringent admission policy. But it keeps out the riff raff so to speak.

    First it allows us to "know" the people we are dealing with AND the health of each other. We have a monthly dues paying system that allows us to add to our supply of "toys" needed for the club. We currently have a twin plow machine, champion horse, many many vibes and dildos, stocks, several spreader bars just to name some. Keeping the circle small allows us to maintain the cleanliness (high priority for us) of the equipment for everyones use.

    It's really up to both of you the level you want to reach but our subs are very submissive and the fun even though we don't swing, gets very close and personal.

    So depending on your level of participation at your new club, I suggest going slow and for sure watch the "tools" you use in your fun to ensure they are clean.
     
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