I spent a good deal of time this evening going back through FAQ's and it really is a great starting point. And thank you Sebastian, for sharing that wealth of knowledge. You are very good with words, and you explain things well. The witching hour approaches and I am off to visit with my lover in a few weeks. We see each other at best, maybe a week every three or four months. Every encounter we have we delve a little deeper into our desires. His desire is to be dominated, which we have 'practiced' however we have promised ourselves that this holiday will be about truly exploring our desires and discovering each other. I posed to him the question of what it is he wants, what he expects of me. His reply was more of 'why he desires this' and not so much 'what he desires.' I tried to elaborate on where the limits are because I believe he underestimates my ability and again the reply was more of 'I have no limits.' So how do I coerce a real answer from him, get the ball rolling so to speak. Between us communication is very good and I'm not sure how we got snagged on this.