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I read something in a thread about the links between abuse and bdsm and really wanted more peoples opinions or experiences regarding it, didnt wanna hijack someones elses thread though so here we go!
So do you think that there can be a realtionship between this and abuse for some people? Do you think its unhealthy for abuse victims to engage in this as in there's an underlying reason for it and its not that they want this or not even that but maybe that their abuse has made them this way?
I was sexually abused by my dad when i was younger and it became very obvious in my early teen years that this effected me sexually. Im not really sure if my fascination with this is because of that because i do remember being interested in this before that happened. I used to fantasise about people forcing me to do things at a very young age. This also made it really hard for me to come to terms with what happened cuz i was convinced i must have wanted it and that maybe i gave off a vibe.
I do wonder if its a bad thing that i engage in this behaviour, like maybe its counter productive. But i also think that by not doing what i want to because it might have a negative effect on me is letting what happened to me control my life and thats something i never want to go back to.
Some of my little theories on it is that dominants who had their control taken away due to abuse have become that so it cant happen to them again. But then they can always be kind of submissive at heart because you'll find a lot of abuse victims find it very hard to say no when put in certain positions due to being scared and memories of it causing them to go back to that powerless state. But also submissive people who have been abused will often take that role as now they feel they are allowing it to happen in a sense and that any mistreatment is in a way their own doing and they have consented to it. And of course many can feel they deserve it.
Someone said to me before as well that maybe subs who have been sexually abused have become so used to it that they are unable to have sex any other way. Its the only thing they know and they have learnt to become aroused by it.
So i dunno i just think its interesting and im really interested in psychology, i study bits of it in college so i'd like to find out peoples opinions, so discuss!! O and obviously anybody who isnt comfortable talking about this publically could pm me if they wanted!
So do you think that there can be a realtionship between this and abuse for some people? Do you think its unhealthy for abuse victims to engage in this as in there's an underlying reason for it and its not that they want this or not even that but maybe that their abuse has made them this way?
I was sexually abused by my dad when i was younger and it became very obvious in my early teen years that this effected me sexually. Im not really sure if my fascination with this is because of that because i do remember being interested in this before that happened. I used to fantasise about people forcing me to do things at a very young age. This also made it really hard for me to come to terms with what happened cuz i was convinced i must have wanted it and that maybe i gave off a vibe.
I do wonder if its a bad thing that i engage in this behaviour, like maybe its counter productive. But i also think that by not doing what i want to because it might have a negative effect on me is letting what happened to me control my life and thats something i never want to go back to.
Some of my little theories on it is that dominants who had their control taken away due to abuse have become that so it cant happen to them again. But then they can always be kind of submissive at heart because you'll find a lot of abuse victims find it very hard to say no when put in certain positions due to being scared and memories of it causing them to go back to that powerless state. But also submissive people who have been abused will often take that role as now they feel they are allowing it to happen in a sense and that any mistreatment is in a way their own doing and they have consented to it. And of course many can feel they deserve it.
Someone said to me before as well that maybe subs who have been sexually abused have become so used to it that they are unable to have sex any other way. Its the only thing they know and they have learnt to become aroused by it.
So i dunno i just think its interesting and im really interested in psychology, i study bits of it in college so i'd like to find out peoples opinions, so discuss!! O and obviously anybody who isnt comfortable talking about this publically could pm me if they wanted!
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