dominated for the first time tomorrow

Discussion in 'General BDSM discussions' started by orangeross, Jan 4, 2012.

  1. orangeross

    orangeross New Member

    as per thread title i am going to be dominated by a mistress for the first time tomorrow,i am very excited and scared about it in equel measures.i have asked for mild domination with anal play included.

    what should i expect??
     
  2. You'll probably get some light spanking or slapping, she might make you perform something humiliating like crawling around on the floor wearing a collar/leash, and she'll probably insert a small butt plug or something similar. Is this a prodomme? If so she'll be nice and courteous and you'll feel like you learned a lot at the end. Just be humble and kind and you shouldn't have any problems.
     
  3. sebastian

    sebastian Active Member

    Honestly, it all depends on the domme in question and what she likes. There is enough variation between dom/mes that about the only thing you can assume for sure is some degree of control. I know two doms who have almost no forms of play in common (one loves bondage and a little bit of tit torture, and loves to take pictures, while the other prefers pain play and humiliation, but does almost no bondage other than using cages. The first says almost nothing while the second is more verbal. Both like leather and police gear though).

    A few things to look for:

    1) She should ask you what your limits are. If she doesn't and demands something that you aren't willing to do, politely explain that you don't do that.
    2) She should give you safe words to stop the play if something feels wrong. If she doesn't give them, ask for them. If she refuses to give them, don't play with her.
    3) Pay attention to her directions and follow them as well as you are able. If you don't understand an order, ask for clarification.
    4) Be sensitive to clues she might be giving you. For example, if she says she likes begging, look for opportunities to beg. The better you can read her unspoken wishes, the more she will enjoy playing with you.

    Have fun and let us know how things went!
     
  4. Good call, that's something I don't often think about...
     
  5. sebastian

    sebastian Active Member

    Imperial, I think that ability to anticipate the dom's needs and desires is the mark of a really good sub
     
  6. Agreed!!
     

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