MIRROR: Download from MEGA
Well, the first thing is to acknowledge that it is, in fact, quite an age difference. He's nearly twice you age, literally old enough to be your father. Your mother is worried that he's taking advantage of you, that he's interested in you primarily because you're so much younger. Many men who go for very young women do so because they (the men) are unable to maintain relationships with women of their age and experience level (some men are emotionally immature, others don't have a job appropriate for their age, etc). In the gay community, we call such men chickenhawks, predators who prey on inexperienced young men, and there are a fair number of them. I've seen a number of such age-discordant relationships among my straight friends; none of them have survived, because once the excitement wore off, the couple found it hard to communicate (because they come from different generations and have different cultural reference points), or because one of them got tired of the other not being more mature.
So start by discussing your mother's concerns with her in an honest and fair way. Take a good look at what sort of man he is. Does he appear emotionally mature? Does he have a stable, appropriate job? Does he seem interested in you as a person instead of just your nubile body? Is he interested in helping you learn and grow and offering you the benefit of his experience and wisdom? Why is he interested in a woman who has so much less experience and emotional growth than he does? If the answer to these seems to be 'no', then your mother is probably seeing these things and trying to keep you from making a mistake. And ask yourself why you are interested in him. Is this just an infatuation with an older man, with the glamour of a man who makes more money than you do and who has a mystique of experience? Or are you interested in him as a person? I realize that your feelings for him may be very intense, but this is true for all romantic relationships at your age.
But, having said all that, age-discordant relationships can work. Some older men (including me) have strong nurturing instincts, and enjoy watching a younger partner grew, mature, and discover things. Many submissives respond instinctively to the power imbalance that age creates, and if he's a skilled and caring dom, he should be able to guide and train you in ways you'll benefit from. In the gay community, age-discordant relationships are relatively common, and some last for decades.
So I'm not saying that this relationship can't work, or that you shouldn't be in it. But I am a little skeptical of it, precisely because you're unlikely to have the experience or emotional maturity to be able to honestly evaluate the relationship, simply because you are quite young. My advice is to go slow, give a lot of thought to why you want to be in this relationship, and pay close attention to what his interests in you are. Look for danger signs: does he want you to drop out of school? Does he want you to not pursue a real career? Is he uncomfortable with you having friends your age outside of the d/s community? Is he uncomfortable with you being in regular contact with your family? Does he want to have control over your finances? If the answer to some of these is yes, my guess is that he might be a predator. On the other hand, if he is encouraging you to learn and grow in your outside life and recognizes that you may someday choose to leave him for a man closer to your age, then he's probably trustworthy.
Fileboom Premium Account
Keep2share Premium PRO Account