I've been involved in the lifestyle in ever increasing degrees for about six years now. Until this point, everything has been about the physical play with little delving into actual dominance and submission. Dominating someone doesn't really come naturally to me, but I've reached a point where I really want a d/s relationship. The problem is it seems like female subs interested in a d/s relationship want someone already very experienced or at least someone who is willing to start treating like they're in service when they've barely met. I come from the "nice guy" side of things though, and I have a hard time exerting dominance until I'm sure consent is given. Does anyone have any tips for getting past this? How do you deal with subs who expect you to prove your dominance before you even negotiate anything? I've just ordered a couple books that I hope will help me with d/s stuff in general, just wondering if anyone has any specific advice for giving a dominance vibe in the initial meeting.