So I've found out that I get a huge thrill out of psychological domination, not so much caring for the inflicting pain, beating, etc. and have taken up two long distance subs online. Since then, I've found neither one responds much, follows punishments properly, or follows many rules properly either. It's become annoying and disheartening. I've since looked at collarme and found that most of the women there are either much older, have man-hating issues, talk about "fakes", or want a man that will beat them short of bloody. I've messaged many about possible long distance play and a couple have replied no interest, most have no reply at all. Locally the pickings are very thin there as well. So then, there's my situation. My question is at what point should I realize when the relationship is not going to work out and cut my losses? Anyone with experience about that who have general guidelines to follow there? Also where is a good place to find people that will play with someone new to the scene, willing to play long distance, and is willing to give some honest replies about how it's going? I really appreciate any help with this.