Little bit of confusion

Discussion in 'General BDSM discussions' started by IceisFun, Nov 24, 2010.

  1. IceisFun

    IceisFun New Member

    Hello, I'm new to the forum but I've been in the scene for a while. I was always a sub/slave but I discovered recently that my true place is being Dominant. I have had several subs since this discovery but none that I have felt as strongly about as the one I am currently with. I have never given a slave collar to any of my subs until now. I was wondering what was the proper way to give her the collar. I want her to know that I am grateful for her consent to be my slave/sub. If I could give the collar to her in a way that symbolizes this it would be perfect. Could someone please help me? I would greatly appreciate it.
  2. SubMumUK

    SubMumUK New Member

    I haven't been collared myself but I didn't wanna read and not reply. I think you could have a night when it's just you and her, no phones or anything, and put the collar on the table or a cushion then ask her take your collar. doesn't have to be overly romantic but have a night of symbolism that only the both of you understand :)

    that's how I'd love to be collared
  3. IceisFun

    IceisFun New Member

    Thank you for your input. That reminded me actually. I am looking for ideas/answers from both doms and subs. Thank you again. : )
  4. L8NightQ

    L8NightQ Member

    Hey Ice -

    We have some threads on this that you may want to check into

    and another

    Read thru those and then let's talk some more.

    Your concept of collaring may be different than others. This is usually reserved at the same level as life-partner joining or marriage, but maybe we're just talking about just getting her a special collar, instead of "collaring" her.

  5. sebastian

    sebastian Active Member

    You might want to offer her a training collar, a special collar that only she gets. Perhaps start each play session with a short ritual in which she asks permission to put her collar on and serve you. That way each session she is offering herself to you again. Eventually if you wish to make this a permanent relationship, you can permit her to earn your collar permanently, and give her a new and more expensive collar in an elaborate ceremony, like a wedding ceremony. Collaring is usually seen as similar to marriage, so make that a wedding-like ceremony. You might even invite family or friends who know about the nature of your relationship.

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