The term "Abuse" - and other (possibly) offencive terms Myself and my partner were talking to someone on MSN last night about various kinks etc and he came out with the term 'kinky abuse'. Well after that we kinda told him off for using the word abuse, saying how even though there are rape fantasies, etc, no one whether in a BDSM respect or just vanilla sex should ever use the term abuse. To me it conjours thoughts of sexual abuse, real rape, peadophillia, etc. So I was wondering what other members in the community had to say about it? Do find using the word, or the term 'abuse' acceptable to describe anything to do with your own BDSM habit? He was using the term 'kinky abuse' synonymically to describe D/s sex.