Hello, I find this site can attract clichÃ© caricatures of both submissive and dominants. I find a general lack of true depth or understanding in those parading around in the shoes of true masochists.I would consider myself a "true" masochist. From the tender age of 13 I felt an instinctual and undeniable attraction to darkness and fantasy, and I want to put a few myths straight. - A big misconception that is spread around this site, is the idea that masochistic or submissive females are weak. This is not true. An attraction to pain is almost superhuman, it does not follow evolutionary guild-lines or societal expectations. It is an intellectual activation of the darkness within all of us, the unknown, the wrong, the denied... it is in no way a submission to men.... In fact, that couldn't be further from the truth. I believe, immaturity and misunderstanding causes people to draw that conclusion. If you truly like pain, you will submit to anyone who you feel holds authority over you. - Another belief is that mostly women are masochists, wrong. There is a higher number of males who identify as masochists. - Masochists hate themselves? It is evident, that masochists do tend show signs of self-destructive and addictive personality types that can push them into sex and drug addiction. Things I myself am familiar with... However, does my enjoyment of pain and submission evidence accusations of self-hate?... Not really. Choosing to inflict pain upon yourself is far more telling. - Most pain lovers are actually the successful, the talented, the beautiful and the wealthy... A lack of pain in general life certainly makes it a desirable and erotic escape from reality. I just had to clarify a few things, I don't like immature people and I don't like it when their views seem to twist the truth of true bdsm enthusiasts. So, I've told you a lot about how I feel, tell me something about you. Anything you would like to clarify? I would love to hear what dominants and sadists love about dominating others? But, yeah discussion is welcome, have a great day :angel:.