Ideas...

Discussion in 'General BDSM discussions' started by Txmstr, Jul 26, 2009.

  1. Txmstr

    Txmstr New Member

    I have met a lady who is interested in releasing all control to me. We are both new to this, it is a fantasy she has and i am happy to oblige :D But since we are both new to this I am kind of looking for ideas, most of our play will be online so what kind of jobs do you assign...or like to be assigned... nothing that will interfear with work of course but im told the skys the limit. Now i would like to collect ideas. Thanks...
     
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  2. Sparrow69

    Sparrow69 Moderator

    Txmstr,

    All good relationships, whether sexual, bdsm related, professional, or familiar, are based on a strong level of communication. A written agreement is a good place to start, and details exactly what is expected and required of both parties. i suggest you agree to try it out for a shorter period of time as a trial basis, and remember, COMMUNICATION IS KEY.
     
  3. Nyx

    Nyx Member

    Can't tell if you're being serious or not but, um, I would not reccomend that. Since you're both new, that would force her to place an unnatural amount of trust on you right away. Not to mention doing something illegal would probably not be ideal.

    My master and I had a primarily online relationship while he was at school. Here are some of the activities we used. (a webcam is a great idea).
    -Orgasm control.
    -Check in times, along with being assigned something to do hourly, or every time you text a specific word.
    -You choose an item of clothing for her to wear, or dictate what she can eat.
    -Have her ask permission before doing anything, including bathroom breaks, food choices, outings, books to read, etc. Be creative!
    -Having her sleep bound.

    And we didn't do it, but if you're into writing assignments, you can do that. Something as simple as having her catalogue her dreams to having her write out in erotic detail what she wants you to do to her.

    Sparrow will probably be a good resource for this. He's diabolical. :p

    Communication is good. Talk about expectations!
     
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  4. Txmstr

    Txmstr New Member

    Ha, well nothing illegal thats for sure. We have discussed it and as far as boundries well not to many of those. Those are some good ideas...i have done some of those but i wasn't sure if such things as dictating what she eats and asking permission to do small things where too much. As i said she said no limits and will do what i ask. She just wants to be dominated and likes the unknown! As i said i am new to so we are learning.... i am open to new ideas for that and punishments...
     
  5. Nyx

    Nyx Member

    Heh, I posted without realzing you had Sparrow. :)
     
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  6. Nyx

    Nyx Member

    Ooh. Punishments.
    My master loved telling me to get an ice cube. Depending on the transgression it could be three or more. I had to insert these into my pussy, or rest them on my breasts. I hated it!
     
  7. Txmstr

    Txmstr New Member

    Ah, yes!!! I like.... Keep them coming :)
     
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  8. Sparrow69

    Sparrow69 Moderator

    remember, sometimes its simpler to add rules, then it is to take them away. Like i said, start small, something written and agreed upon. if you need to, you can add addendum to it as you go along.

    All of my subs and slaves sign a yearly contract, subs get one for 6 months.
     
  9. Txmstr

    Txmstr New Member

    Ok, i will do that. A contract would be interesting! Right now it is mostly small things we are playing with, there are some real creative people out there and just wondering what their ideas for tasks and punishments are.
     
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  10. monocrome

    monocrome Member

    i'm not certain how I feel about a written contract but i cannot stress enough what Sparrow said about communication... good communication is the basis for ANY relationship.
     
  11. HermitIX

    HermitIX New Member

    Task her to catalogue her clothes with pictures. Then you can tell her what to wear each day. If she wants to buy something new to add to her wardrobe she has to get permission from you first.

    This would take significant dedication on your part too. Each night you would need to provide the next days clothing demands. As a sub I always like to know I am on my Masters mind something like this would be great.

    And when she is good you can treat her to a free day where she can choose her own clothes for the day. If she is bad you can have her dress in clashing or inappropriate clothing.

    After a while when you have both built up a strong relationship with trust you can have her change other aspects of her appearance. Think she would look good with long/short hair have her grow it out or cut it, have her curl it or straighten it also bleach or dye.
     
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  12. Nyx

    Nyx Member

    My master sometimes asked me to do something hourly and then text him/catalogue it when I was done. I also had to report how many times I had missed doing the task. This could be anything from reciting my mantra every hour to kneeling in a certain position for a set amount of time. If he was feeling particularly evil he'd tell me to bring myself to the edge of orgasm and then stop several times during the day.
     
  13. monocrome

    monocrome Member

    these types of things are some of my favorites. the last one i had to do was hop up and down on one foot at least three times, every hour on the 1/2 hour, while he was on a very long (20 hour) trip. this meant i had to do some of the hopping while i was at work. i also had to set an alarm to get up to do some of it, as he left in the middle of the night. he had me report every time i did it on facebook. so not only did my co-workers and one customer get to go "waaaaat?" so did basically everyone i know.
     
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  14. Txmstr

    Txmstr New Member

    i like some of these... thanks for the ideas. I will take all i can :) Thanks again
     
  15. Txmstr

    Txmstr New Member

    NYX mentioned reciting a montra... may i ask what that would be? what the montra is? Just to help give me ideas of my own?
     

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