hi, i am in a lesbian relationship and i am the dom. our sex life is great but it seems like we keep doing the same things again and again. we have both only been involved in bdsm for about a year now but as the dom i feel some what responsible for finding new things for us to do, i really want to please her but am running out of ideas of how to punish her, dominate her and pleasure her in new ways. we live about 50 miles away from each other so we see each other when we can so i need ways to still dominate her and make her my slave even when im not there, but when we are together is certainly the more important part for us. we have a few toys: collar with chains and nipple clamps, pinwheel, whip, bondage tape, blindfold, door cuffs(which we find quite difficult to use comfortably), strap-on, vibrators and dildos. we also use ice cubes and hot wax in play which she really likes! i sometimes find myself getting a little stuck with how to punish her and how to talk to her during sex. I just dont want to bore her with the same things again, i am going to see her at the weekend and would love some new ideas to try.. if anyone has any suggestions they would be much appreciated anything that you think we may not have tried with our toys, or different roles, poitions, punishments..... anything thanks in advance hope someone can help!