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Hello...
I am new here, and I've been having a heck of a time trying to find someone to ask this question to!
My Dom has his own set of leather cuffs (wrist and ankle). We are supposed to be getting married when he comes home (he has been overseas in the sandbox for over a year, so while we have a commitment to each other, there's no date set yet). I have always had this aversion to wearing the cuffs he has. I never had my own, but, something about wearing these cuffs I know have been around other women's wrists/ankles just turns me off.
I was thinking about asking for my own set. I have mentioned that I don't like wearing his other cuffs, just because they were on a previous partner (actually, one serious partner, and other people he dated/played with). He didn't really get it, and it's gone by the wayside. He wasn't rude about it, I just don't think he understands how much it bothers me. I can be so sensitive about certain things, and this is one of them. Not sure why, cause I've worn other cuffs, but....right now, with marriage on the table (talk of it, anyway...), it's bothering me more than ever. I feel silly sometimes when I think about just how much it bothers me.
I've not asked anyone about this, because the few friends I've brought it up to looked at me like I was nuts. They didn't care. I don't have a huge set of friends in the lifestyle, so I went looking online to try and find others who may understand. So far, nothing. I've been lurking here for almost a year, and this burning question finally got me to muster up the courage to register and ASK. I certainly hope this is the right place to ask. This was NOT easy to ask. I am painfully SHY.
So...since I know it's not just subs here, I'd welcome opinions from anyone. Anyone ever heard of a sub wanting her own cuffs, or having a real aversion to wearing cuffs with a dedicated partner who used those cuffs on others before her? Sometimes I feel I am just being silly, but...it keeps on bothering me. I don't know what to make of it. Should I just get over it? Am I over-reacting, or being too sensitive? To me, it's almost like having a previous fiancee's engagement ring. Does that make sense, or am just way over the top here?
I have written and erased this post without submitting it about a dozen times today. Why does this bother me so much?!???
Help!
(very sorry about the length of this post!)
I am new here, and I've been having a heck of a time trying to find someone to ask this question to!
My Dom has his own set of leather cuffs (wrist and ankle). We are supposed to be getting married when he comes home (he has been overseas in the sandbox for over a year, so while we have a commitment to each other, there's no date set yet). I have always had this aversion to wearing the cuffs he has. I never had my own, but, something about wearing these cuffs I know have been around other women's wrists/ankles just turns me off.
I was thinking about asking for my own set. I have mentioned that I don't like wearing his other cuffs, just because they were on a previous partner (actually, one serious partner, and other people he dated/played with). He didn't really get it, and it's gone by the wayside. He wasn't rude about it, I just don't think he understands how much it bothers me. I can be so sensitive about certain things, and this is one of them. Not sure why, cause I've worn other cuffs, but....right now, with marriage on the table (talk of it, anyway...), it's bothering me more than ever. I feel silly sometimes when I think about just how much it bothers me.
I've not asked anyone about this, because the few friends I've brought it up to looked at me like I was nuts. They didn't care. I don't have a huge set of friends in the lifestyle, so I went looking online to try and find others who may understand. So far, nothing. I've been lurking here for almost a year, and this burning question finally got me to muster up the courage to register and ASK. I certainly hope this is the right place to ask. This was NOT easy to ask. I am painfully SHY.
So...since I know it's not just subs here, I'd welcome opinions from anyone. Anyone ever heard of a sub wanting her own cuffs, or having a real aversion to wearing cuffs with a dedicated partner who used those cuffs on others before her? Sometimes I feel I am just being silly, but...it keeps on bothering me. I don't know what to make of it. Should I just get over it? Am I over-reacting, or being too sensitive? To me, it's almost like having a previous fiancee's engagement ring. Does that make sense, or am just way over the top here?
I have written and erased this post without submitting it about a dozen times today. Why does this bother me so much?!???
Help!
(very sorry about the length of this post!)
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