So I was thinking of adding some ceiling mounted hooks above the "play area" aka the bed. The idea is just a slight twist on the normal spread eagle tie, with arms/legs pulled more upwards. http://www.mcmaster.com/#general-purpose-eyebolts/=d2u7zx *** I am not planning for this to be suspension play, I will never be suspending my partner via whatever I come up with. However, I still want it to be fairly sturdy, there will be plenty of jostling and such on the hooks. I can find all sorts of decent anchors that go through drywall or go into brick with load ratings. I can't find anything that looks like it will anchor well into just a wooden ceiling joist. What would be even better would be to have a threaded insert into the ceiling, so that the hook can be removed and replaced for a move discrete bedroom fixture. Perhaps something like this, but for wood. http://www.grainger.com/Grainger/RED-HEAD-Drywall-Anchor-2G592?Pid=search I do not have access to the attic, as we live in an apartment. Otherwise I would have a lot more options. Has anyone done anything like this before?