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hey, i just thought i'd add to this since i'm a sub and also a virgin i'm at that happy stage of still quite new so i remember how i started but into it enough to talk to other people and give advice.
i think one thing you should have a think about is why you're a virgin. if it's just because you haven't had any offers (unlikely, you're very pretty), because you haven't found the right guy or because you're wanting to wait for moral reasons.
for me, i'm a virgin because i'm a christian and i've made the choice to wait until my wedding night. for that reason, i've told my Dom that i won't have anal or vaginal penetration unless we get married, so that's a hard limit for me.
i had limits before in previous vanilla relationships that included not rubbing my pussy with his cock or asking/ begging for sex. i spoke to my Dom and he didn't push those limits but said he'd like me to become comfortable enough to do those things with him and over time i've introduced it more during play (e.g. with begging "what do you want?" "i want to have sex with you").
as sebastian said, your hard limits don't have to remain hard.
the best piece of advice i can give you is be totally and completely honest with whoever you want to play with. talk about what you're comfortable with or what you don't like. when i spoke to my dom i wasn't sure what i wanted so we try everything once then talk about my reactions to it, if i hate it we might try it again to see if i could like it but never have to.
being completely honest about what you feel is so important for a d/s relationship. and if the question is "what do you want to try first?" and you don't know then that's a perfectly valid answer.
as far as establishing your hard limits, you might only think of one or two things you really don't want to do, which is ok too. you can always add to your hard and soft limits later.
hope this helps!
i think one thing you should have a think about is why you're a virgin. if it's just because you haven't had any offers (unlikely, you're very pretty), because you haven't found the right guy or because you're wanting to wait for moral reasons.
for me, i'm a virgin because i'm a christian and i've made the choice to wait until my wedding night. for that reason, i've told my Dom that i won't have anal or vaginal penetration unless we get married, so that's a hard limit for me.
i had limits before in previous vanilla relationships that included not rubbing my pussy with his cock or asking/ begging for sex. i spoke to my Dom and he didn't push those limits but said he'd like me to become comfortable enough to do those things with him and over time i've introduced it more during play (e.g. with begging "what do you want?" "i want to have sex with you").
as sebastian said, your hard limits don't have to remain hard.
the best piece of advice i can give you is be totally and completely honest with whoever you want to play with. talk about what you're comfortable with or what you don't like. when i spoke to my dom i wasn't sure what i wanted so we try everything once then talk about my reactions to it, if i hate it we might try it again to see if i could like it but never have to.
being completely honest about what you feel is so important for a d/s relationship. and if the question is "what do you want to try first?" and you don't know then that's a perfectly valid answer.
as far as establishing your hard limits, you might only think of one or two things you really don't want to do, which is ok too. you can always add to your hard and soft limits later.
hope this helps!
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