My boyfriends fetish

Discussion in 'General BDSM discussions' started by Bondage Mad, Sep 3, 2013.

  1. Bondage Mad

    Bondage Mad New Member

    Hi, I have been with my boyfriend for just over a yr and a half and about 2 months in we started in light bondage a he told me he really liked it and it was something i hve wanted to try ; we were getting more and more "hardcore" every time we tried it again and after about a year we were playing out full on scenes (we both share the dominant and submissive roles) and now all of a sudden he now doesn't want to participate in bondage anymore, Is this something I have been doing wrong or can a fetish like that just fade out?
  2. Smallest

    Smallest Moderator

    It could be that something is wrong (with the scene, with his health, with one of you, anything), and it could also be that he stopped being interested in kink as yes, sexual interests do fade out. Only he could tell you which it is, though
  3. Forgotten angel

    Forgotten angel New Member


    Ive had this happen in temporary stints. Like depending if theres too much stress in life, or ive been working to hard all week and exhausted ive pushed aside all of that stuff just cuz its too much extra and i just want to hurry it along. Ive said that i dont want to do the stuff anymore, but after awhile when life tones back down you get back to craving it again. This might be the case with him, check and see if hes stressed
  4. sebastian

    sebastian Active Member

    BondageMad: The only one who can tell you what's going on is your boyfriend. There are dozens of things that could be happening. He might be stressed out or depressed. He might have a fantasy he's afraid to tell you. He might be deciding he's not into you any more. He might be getting bored with the same sorts of play over and over again. The only way to find out is to ask him directly and listen to what he says
  5. mukundi

    mukundi New Member

    try discussing the issue. there may be several problems. discussion is the best solution.
  6. GentlemanJay

    GentlemanJay Guest

    You need to talk with him only he can tell you what is going on. Let him know you are concerned and worried, let him know that whatever it is you will be supportive and understanding. Best wishes with this :)
  7. spanked

    spanked Member

    May be he needs a good spanking
  8. Smallest

    Smallest Moderator


    As explained in the Forum Etiquette threads that pepper this forum, only posts that have a point and are real advice are welcome. Snarky joke/fantasy replies are not.
  9. Talking is great advice, but don't pressure him either. Let him know you are there to support him and want to talk when he is ready. If he is struggling with something he might need time to think and figure things out.

    Hope everything works out!
  10. MistressSimone

    MistressSimone New Member

    I think he just needs a break, but just flat out ask him what his feelings are.
  11. foxhuang

    foxhuang New Member

    I think he just needs a break,too.Maybe you can give him something new.

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