Hello folks! I am struggling writing a scene for a novel, and I truly hope someone can help me! A little background on the story: The Dom had a life-changing experience which leaves him more preoccupied than normal, and the experience is caused by someone the Sub knows, so he holds a bit of resentment. The Sub is feeling that her needs are not being met, and one night she meets someone else who satisfies those needs, but leaves marks (which she unsuccessfully tries to hide). The Dom questions the Sub for answers, and needs to decide on punishment. The punishment is for both the infidelity and the lying about it. My question/struggle is this: Can/Would the Dom also include himself in the punishment? And what I mean by this is, the Sub found someone to meet her needs because He wasn't meeting her needs (the Dom admits this to himself...he knows he has failed as her Dom in this situation). Would it be appropriate for him to admit this to the Sub, and would he adjust his punishment accordingly? The Dom is a caring man, and worked hard to build his Sub's trust. The life-changing experience has shaken that trust hard, and it's either going to crack and fall apart, or stay together. My other issue is I'm not sure what would be appropriate punishment for this. I'm open to ideas if anyone has any suggestions. I really appreciate any help anyone can provide, and I truly apologize if this is not the right avenue to ask this information. I don't practice the lifestyle personally, but I've always been intrigued by the powerful emotions it can evoke. I want the scenes I write to be as realistic and true as I can make them, and since I do not have first-hand knowledge, I wanted to reach out to the community for help! Thank you so much!