Stand her upright and if you can tie her hands above her head (to a curtain rail, hook or similar thing) and spread her legs. You don't then have to do anything as such, but just the inability to close her legs to shrug away from whatever you're doing to her. (The instinctive defence thing).
You can then incorporate plugs, vibrators, the tower, clips, clamps, whipping etc into your play. In this sense you're using the bar as a restraint so she can't move her legs (arms tied abover her head stops her running away
) rather than using it as a tool to keep her exposed.
With her stood up too you can use any toys for forced orgasm etc, and if you use rope through a hook or curtain rail, when you do want to finally have intercourse, you can untie or lower her arms, keeping her legs in the same place and just bend her over.
For a first time meet you don't want to go too hard too fast. Okay you've had an online relationship for a while, and no matter what you two have already done, it doesn't change nerves and tensions, and embaressment in person. Go hard and make an impact, but not so hard you scare her off or really shock her. Remember, she'll already have a view of you in her minds eye of what you're like in person. You don't want to completely destroy that.
Would you mind posting or pming me some of the things you've done over the net in the way of bondage, play, domination etc? I am currently away from my sub for another month or so and I want to give her more things to do but I'm drawing a blank atm.
