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BetThisOnesFree · Jun 30, 2012

sebastian said:
I realized I was dominant about 3 years ago, largely as the result of chatting with a slave online. It was really a sudden revelation. In the space of a few seconds, my life suddenly made sense in a new way. So it wasn't scary or shocking at all--it was really a sort of lightbulb moment. And since then, I've felt much...wholer than I did before.

wow, that sounds awesome! i think im both a dom and sub, but like, 65% dom and like 35% sub... i mean, who wouldnt want to be better than someone else and have control over them?? thats just human instinct to me. the way i found out was by looking at porn and realizing i was bored of normal people sex.. bahaha

LilBunny said:
Bet,
I'm like you, I had a near perfect childhood, so don't think there is any deciding factor on who's kinky and who's not. I don't think I ever had any "vanilla" ideas about sex, because I can remember discovering masturbation at ayoung age when I found some bondage pics in a friend of the family's house. Then in my 20's I read The Sleeping Beauty books and something clicked for me.

On the flip side of that, up until about seven yrs ago I never told anybody. Sure, I liked rough sex, but that was all anyone I was with ever saw. Then I got with my now-husband, and he likes to spank. Slowly he has pulled my kink out of me, and I gotta say I feel more comfortable with my self now than I ever have. It's amazing what a difference it can make when you accept yourself for who you are, and embrace every side, even your kink.

In short (too late, haha) you are as normal as any other human on the planet, which is to say there is no such thing as "normal". Normal is boring, anyway. It sounds like you have a really good therapist, and I wish you all the best. Hope my rambling didn't confuse the issue, lol.

aww this post was awesome, thanks! and who is the owner of the magazines you found and can i have her number??? hahaha jk. but yea thats awesome that u had a great childhood and are still into this, its just that upon first glance these fantasies seemed so dark to me that i couldnt possibly imagine they were "good" or "healthy" and therefore must have been caused by SOME traumatic incident or another along the line... like a way to act out the trauma in a safe and sexual environment. wouldnt it be a shocker if some really famous and well respected person came out and said they were into this stuff?? now THAT would change the publics minds about it lol

subarama30 said:
I think it's normal to feel like you're a bit of an outsider when you first have these thoughts/feelings, especially when you are young and you see the general media's approach to bdsm.

Personally I knew I liked things that were 'different' when I was 11/12. Back then just reading vampire books made me a freak to those around me. So when I started to realise certain things were exciting in my teens it didn't bother me that much but I didn't open up to anyone about them. I didn't think there was something wrong with me but that someone else might!

I didn't get any real experience of anything till I was about 16 with a much older guy. He was an abusive asshole it turned out but he was my first proper introduction to bdsm and there was aspects of our interaction that I loved but I was worried how any future guys would take what I liked, that it made me weird/freak to many. It took me years to open up to my fiancÃ© about what I really liked.

aw that guy sounds like a dick, fuck him! lol. yea i do kinda feel like an outsider with this, i told my friend i was into this yesterday and asked him wat he thought of it and he was pretty shocked i have to admit, probably cuz hes known me for so long but still... and which vampire books were u reading? twilight? I hear that the books were good until the movie came along haha... maybe u should experiment with like vampires and somehow incorporate it into bdsm play... i feel like im assigning a project LOL

sebastian · Jul 1, 2012

BetThisOnesFree said:
wow, that sounds awesome! i think im both a dom and sub, but like, 65% dom and like 35% sub... i mean, who wouldnt want to be better than someone else and have control over them?? thats just human instinct to me. the way i found out was by looking at porn and realizing i was bored of normal people sex.. bahaha

It's called being a switch. I think the number of 100% doms is fairly small. I think of myself as about 90% dom.

And there are lots of people who don't want to feel superior to other people. Many subs crave a feeling of complete inferiority. Sounds to me like you're definitely more dom than sub.

subarama30 · Jul 1, 2012

BetThisOnesFree said:
aw that guy sounds like a dick, fuck him! lol. yea i do kinda feel like an outsider with this, i told my friend i was into this yesterday and asked him wat he thought of it and he was pretty shocked i have to admit, probably cuz hes known me for so long but still... and which vampire books were u reading? twilight? I hear that the books were good until the movie came along haha... maybe u should experiment with like vampires and somehow incorporate it into bdsm play... i feel like im assigning a project LOL

God Twilight Nooooooo lol I'm a lot older than you so I was into them way before it was cool to be and I wasn't reading teen stuff it was books aimed at adults, both fiction and non-fiction.

I actually do like biting as it turns out so I guess that's why I found vamps so intriguing.

Moonlight · Jul 1, 2012

Well it is not a full vampire book anyways. I saw the letter. It read Dear Dracula you remember that night we were together, well you have a son. His name is Edward, Sincerely Tinkerbell.

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