What turned you onto BDSM?

Discussion in 'Section open for any subject to discuss' started by Blondesin, Sep 28, 2008.

  1. Blondesin

    Blondesin New Member

    Ive always been curious of the BDSM lifestyle that intrigues me more each day & i enjoy all of your stories & experiences and expertise. I thank everyone of you for this insight into what i hope to one day fully experience. Im still learning what are turn ons/turn offs.

    WHAT WAS IT THAT TURNED YOU ONTO BDSM? Was it an experience, book, movie, website, introduction by a partner, always loved pain, born to be, etc.

    Come on folks give it up or do you have to be punished first?


    The thing that intrigues me and turns me on the most is the depth of trust you instill in your partner. If youre hanging from the rafters bound by rope you need to trust your partner. uncertainty heightens the pleasure and all hurts heal but Id rather not be irreversably damaged so i can play again. ;)

    Favorite things of mine that turned me onto BDSM
    Jake & MiMi by Frank Baldwin - This book 1st turned me on to bdsm
    All of J.R. Ward's books - vampire series
    http://www.bdsmplaypen.com - favorite bdsm movie website cuz its free and its what finally made me
    decide to explore the Bdsm lifestyle.
     
  2. DeMonicon

    DeMonicon New Member

    My Introduction

    I recall a large "bear" of a man wearing what was then described to me as freedom rings on a chain around his neck... he was working on finding some for BDSM... but I stray, from this story.

    He had in his possession if I recall properly three chained harem girls, an interesting combination for he was gay and they were lesbians. He would walk about the fair and set their spike into the ground and they would take their places. Frozen waiting for his music to command their souls and allow their bodies to move. He would sit and prepare himself, taking his time... the girls holding still - waiting.
    He would play his music and the girls would come alive in dance.

    My memory of that moment and the control he had over them... has remained with me to this day. I look forward to a day wherein I have a similar harem.
     
  3. ReallyGreen

    ReallyGreen Member

    I honestly can't say if any one thing did it. But whatever it was, my kinky-ness was well established by the time I entered highschool.
     
  4. Prissy

    Prissy Member

    A night gone wrong, enabled me to find out how relaxing being bound up is. Sinc then, I have grown quite a bit into the bondage and submissions.
     
  5. Riley

    Riley New Member

    I've always wanted a 'night gone wrong' like with a group of friends and some game that went a bit to far.

    But the truth is that I loved the concept of being bound on my own and believed that there was no concept or word for it int he real world. I found out on my own that other people enjoy it too.

    Thats my story

    I still wouldn't mind a night of spontanious games that get taken a little far with certain friends of mine. ;)
     
  6. rodiel

    rodiel New Member

    My sensory miswirings... I have a rather unique pain&heat perception that enables me to enjoy certain injuries and be impervious to cold weather. Well, on the other hand I'm heat intolerant and have some sensitivities ie. to light touch, but I think all in all my nervous system rocks :)
    Also, my pervasive interest in death did help, alongside my recent researches/reflections on good, evil, and power.

    I've heard many autistic people like BDSM and I indeed know people in our local community with similar interests. But I also heard that a history of being sexually abused makes you susceptible to BDSM involvement; how much if true about that?
     
  7. Dr. Beatnik

    Dr. Beatnik New Member

    I've been hurting myself since I was in nursery school. I've always liked the way certain kinds of pain felt, however, I didn't admit to myself that I was a masochist untill last night. I just never thought of myself as one, because my brain was still influenced by society's taboos, and I thought of it as perversion. Now I understand that some people are just different, and it's perfectly healthy to experiment with those differences.
     
  8. Barebackslavegirl

    Barebackslavegirl New Member

    For me it was the intense, intimate, trusting relationship with a man, who, became my Master.
    He awakened in me feelings so intense, I know they came from deep within, and I had never felt, anything like them before in my life. And I crave every minute with him and the whippings he takes for his pleasure. This lifestyle is extreme at the most, but with a trust so overwhelming, why would I not give my life to him, my Master, to use as he sees fit. He is my Domination.
     
  9. I have born to control. When i was child i got happy when my family, friends or people older than me do what i wanted. When i was 9 or 10 i wanted to beat someone for my pleasure. I had dreams about it. I have childiren that i bet at that years. Most of them were boys. When i was sleeping in that years i thank about i torture someone and got happy. Then when i was 13-14 i thank about fucking a man. After that i reached my 18 and i torture one of my relatives so hard and he had no reaction to this, and he was my first slave. And the years passed. And still i love to feel BDSM as a life philosopy and i get happy when i see a life devoted to me. And i think i will live this until my dead. I am thankful to the God that i have this power and ability. I sleep and wake up everyday with knowing that i am so lucky woman..
     
  10. I think, for me, what really did it was a story I read at the age of 10 or 11 about a girl who got abducted, and was kept bound and gagged in her captor's living room. Nothing sexual happened, but it gave me a thrill so intense that I can't describe it. I also remember fantasising, at the age of 8, about disturbing a masked burglar with an aggressive manner from his work, and him needing to tie me up and gag me to keep me from trying anything funny.

    When I first started having these fantasies, I was still way too young to know what sex was (I was brought up in a fairly strict Catholic household) and was frustrated that I couldn't explain away the weird feelings I was experiencing, or do anything about it. So whenever, once I became sexually active, a man would put me into bondage, it felt somewhat...therapeutic.
     
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  11. Nyx

    Nyx Member

    I don't remember precisely when I got interested in BDSM. I don't think I knew what it was called when I started craving stories that had bits about spanking or slapping or being tied up.
    Also, I think a lot of it has to do with the fact that I crave the loss of control. My entire life I have had to be in control of my emotions and my actions. I want the freedom to squirm with pain, and to have my actions decided by someone else. Someone I trust.

    Most of my fantasies and interests stayed in my head and in my illicit stories until I met my first top, who was strictly online. He was my introduction... but truthfully I wanted more. I wanted to have that physical presence there with me.

    And a month ago I met my current top.

    Bondage is for me, like the previous poster mentioned, therapuetic. Even if I'm lying on the floor in handcuffs or bent over the bed while he snaps his belt, I'm strangely at ease. All I have to do is obey. Of course, I still struggle with it, but he is quick to correct my flaws.
     
  12. Sparrow69

    Sparrow69 Moderator

    I had a lot of medical issues growing up, and i was taught to compartmentalize the pain and enter sub-space. this fascinated me. Later on, i was dating a girl whom i cared deeply for, and she was very abusive, not only sexually, but mentally, and neither in a good way. I can say that by me using what i had learned earlier, and pleasuring the pain, she did do one thing for me, she taught me a lot, and didn't even know it. I eventually, with the help of friends, left her, and became a much stronger and independent me.
    I went to school got several degrees, and focused my attention on finding out more on how one could use the body to overcome great torment, and that folks, is the crescendo, and its all downhill from there...
    I am a sadist, I'm twisted, but all in the name of science. I love to inflict pain, but love it even more when you enjoy it, and i log meticulously. Don't let it fool you though, I'm a very loving and compassionate soul and while I often enjoy pleasured screams of pain, I love the sensual soft moans of connecting with someone more deeply then anyone could imagine.
     
  13. Sashalust

    Sashalust Member

    Growing up I was always shy, not like conflict or causing trouble, as I got older I got tired of people pushing me around and telling me what to do so I became more assertive and more aggressive as well as more manipulative. When I became sexually active for my very first time I was 18 and there was bondage and a bit of rough play involved and I loved every moment of it. I stayed with that man and married him and we enjoy a Dom/sub relationship with each other switching from time to time for the other, yet when I think of myself with anyone else I am always on top and force ably taking what I want. I have a natural leadership quality that makes people listen to me without much effort on my part, though when I have to get mean I do and people are quick to do as I say. My husband says that he knew I had this aggressive nature in me which is what attracted him to me, made him want to bring it out of me in a sexual manner.
     
  14. I had fantasies when I was in grade school that I didn't realize were BDSM until I was older.

    More recently there was a man I was interested in that told me he had once been someone's slave. I had a really sexy dream where he was my Master and I told him about it. He spanked me, jokingly he says, and I responded to it. We both liked the experience but we didn't talk about it and it didn't go any further than that. A few days later he asked me to be his slave and I agreed. Now I am a collared and very happy slave.
     
  15. There is too much truth in the statement. If you care to PM me I can talk more about it, but I know I'm not the only one that has experienced it.
     

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