What turned you onto BDSM?

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i guess what started it for me, was when i recieved my first collar. when me and my gf where still in school and just best friends, she bought me a collar and wrote up a contract. it was nout sexual, i mean we were only 13. i spose that just started it for off in a way. i just liked someone being in control of what i did.
Since then, i dont really know what happened. i used to self harm due to really enjoying pain, but i dunno what turned me onto tryin that, i was probably just a curious kid with alot of time on my hands. but the more i did it, the more i enjoyed it, then my parents found out and tried to turf me into counselling so it stopped. This is the first relationship where i have tried anything regarded as 'BDSM', owing to the fact that i knew my old partners would never try anything that i was interested in. however, my gf had been through the same, repressing her kinks and fetishes due to 'narrow-minded partners'. now that we are seeing each other, its all gone a bit mental. years of repressing what we both wanted to try mixed with how well we know and trust each other has proved a marvellous combination :D
 
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'Parental Suppression' deserves it's own thread :p

Lets see.....
*The Talk I got at 16.... "Don't get anybody pregnant". Enlightening.
*Not allowed to be barefoot in the house (I'm somewhat surprised they didn't make me wear swimtrunks in the shower). Boys being shirtless would have caused a heart attack.
*In traditional WASP style, the only emotion we were allowed was "mildly happy"
*Kissing with tongue was considered "sex"
*Parents talking about sex with children was verboten. So much so that if people on TV were doing something (and I'm talking network-TV sex..... nothing "on screen") remotely erotic that was the cue to pick up a magazine or book and pretend not to pay attention.
 
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happy for you, filfy...
it's great to break parent suppression and be able to experience freely what gives you your own kicks... and finding a partner that goes through the same is even better because she will know what you mean from first hand experience...
lucky you...
i admit i'm also a bit envious :) because i'm quite deprived here.
i hope i can find my match too one day.

thanks. my partner is top notch. my back is a mess, and she managed to reduce me to tears through physical pain. love it. wish my phone camera was decent enough so i could post picks on here...
i'm sure you'll find your match one day.
 
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Flingress

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thanks. my partner is top notch. my back is a mess, and she managed to reduce me to tears through physical pain. love it. wish my phone camera was decent enough so i could post picks on here...
i'm sure you'll find your match one day.


uhhh.. tears, huh?

does she look in your eyes and appreciate what she evokes in you?
does she take pleasure from your expressions and sounds of pain?
do you look back in her eyes? including the moments when you're hurting bad, as much as you can keep your eyes open?

do you see where i'm getting at? i'm trying to give a hint of what would excite me personally.
anybody else get a kick from this kind of thing?
 
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filfy

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uhhh.. tears, huh?

does she look in your eyes and appreciate what she evokes in you?
does she take pleasure from your expressions and sounds of pain?
do you look back in her eyes? including the moments when you're hurting bad, as much as you can keep your eyes open?

do you see where i'm getting at? i'm trying to give a hint of what would excite me personally.
anybody else get a kick from this kind of thing?

yes too all 3. through out what she was doing she was always looking into my eyes and the same for me to her. at points when i'd turn my head away for more than a small while, she'd turn my face back to hers and look at me as if to say. 'you're doing well, i love you' she loves the sound of my moaning and the expressions on my face(especially my 'angry horny face' :confused:), they in turn make her more "viscious", which makes me moan more... its and endless cycle, but one we both thoroughly enjoy.
 
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uhhhm...

i had certain doubts about belonging here because of my limitations... i feel so vanilla next to you guys...
i mean, i couldn't possibly stand some of the things i read in this forum.
not for the magnitude of pain, but for the fact that they'd serve to turn me right off.
but i can see that there's at least a tangent and i'm far from being totally off the mark. :)
heh...
i don't know why but that makes me feel better. :)
 
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'Parental Suppression' deserves it's own thread :p

Lets see.....
*The Talk I got at 16.... "Don't get anybody pregnant". Enlightening.
*Not allowed to be barefoot in the house (I'm somewhat surprised they didn't make me wear swimtrunks in the shower). Boys being shirtless would have caused a heart attack.
*In traditional WASP style, the only emotion we were allowed was "mildly happy"
*Kissing with tongue was considered "sex"
*Parents talking about sex with children was verboten. So much so that if people on TV were doing something (and I'm talking network-TV sex..... nothing "on screen") remotely erotic that was the cue to pick up a magazine or book and pretend not to pay attention.

We're a very diverse bunch o' people.


yes, you are.
and i think i love you all for that. :)
especially with that tableau of yours about a family medium... you seem to have come a long way at accepting everybody as they are in sexual matters.
my youth wasn't an easy one either. i couldn't learn on time how to keep myself from jutting out as the easiest target to pick at, in school or at home.
that places you in quite a few scenes of physical and psychological torment, i assure you.
no wonder i started liking it... :D
 
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I had sex with my friend when I was ten and he wanted to tie me up, but couldn't find a rope. Later that summer (or the next summer) I had sex with my cousins (3 brothers) and I remember having fantasies of girls being tied up. Later spanking got in to my fantasy scenarios. Later I found fetish porn. At the age 13 when my friends we're making jokes about boots and leather clothes I was giving myself golden showers.

I only wonder why I consider myself a virgin after taking part in gay-incest-foursome, maybe I shouldn't. I wonder if my cousins had threesomes and was I the one who introduced them into sex.

I guess because of my homosexual experiences I "felt" free to explore ideas without interference from norms of society. Step by step I turned into a complete pervert, for me kinky is the norm and vanilla is just boring.
 
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