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A couple things: 1) Truly non-consensual activity of any kind is immoral, not part of BDSM practice (since consent is a foundational principle for BDSM) and depending on the activity, illegal (among other things, it might count as blackmail). If the subject is willing to have embarrassing pics taken and shared (for example, some subs have a 'blackmail' fetish), then go ahead. But if the sub is truly non-consenting, knock it off. So in order to do this, have a good long talk with the sub before play begins. Never negotiate consent once play has started--many subs become too submissive to refuse consent once play has started, in which case the consent is essentially coerced.
2) Remember that once a pic is sent to someone it will NEVER disappear. You lose all control of the pic once it's sent to someone else. It can be posted online, copied endlessly, and so on. This may have massive repercussions for the sub. If the pic can be identified as the sub (for example, if his face or an identifying birthmark, tattoo, or the like is visible, or the sub is identified by name), it could ruin his current or future career, damage his relationships and reputation, eliminate the ability to run for public office, and so on. So NEVER send sexually-explicit pics or videos of anyone, dom or sub, without having a serious discussion of the way it will affect the subject's current and future life. Sending such material out without the sub's permission is wildly irresponsible behavior on the dom's part. Doms do not have the right to damage a sub's life just for a brief sexual thrill.
3) This all assumes the sub is an adult. If the sub is a minor, sexually explicit photos or videos may well fall into the category of child pornography, and sending such images to minors is also a crime in many areas. Minors cannot give legal consent on such things, so even if the sub or recipient is willing, it's probably a criminal offense, and can land you on the sex offender lists for life, which will basically ruin your entire life.
4) 'Breaking a sub' is a problematic concept. Some subs need a strong sense of coercion to enable them to give up control and enjoy what is happening to them. For example, some people are raised in very sexually conservative households that teach them that sexual pleasure is immoral (or that kinky sex is immoral). Subs in this category often love bondage, because it means that they have no choice except to relax and enjoy what is happening to them. Alpha male types often need to feel coerced through bondage, humiliation, and so on because their natural aggressive drives make it hard for them to relinquish control and engage in submissive behavior. So subs like this often need to feel like their resistance is overwhelmed and that they have been 'broken'. So they are willing participants in their 'breaking'. In this sense, it is reasonable to think of breaking a sub.
However, in the porn, a person is often broken unwillingly. For example, in a porn story an alpha male might be an asshole who treats people poorly. The dom in the story kidnaps the alpha male, ties him up and proceeds to break his resistance; by the end of the story, the initially unwilling sub may discover that he enjoys being humiliated and becomes a willing victim. This works well in porn and in role-playing. (For another example, Katherine Hepburn's early film career was self-consciously based on the principle that audiences enjoyed seeing her get her comeuppance, so she often pushed directors to include scenes that humiliated her in some way.) However, in real life, doing this is called rape, sexual assault, domestic abuse, and so on. It's a crime. And it's immoral. Again, BDSM is founded on the principle of consent. If the sub consents to his or her treatment and understands the ramifications of what's being done, go for it. 'Break your sub'--you'll both enjoy it. But if the sub doesn't consent, or doesn't understand the ramifications of what is going to be done, DON'T DO IT. Good doms do not want to permanently damage their sub's mental health, which is what actually breaking a person's spirit is. So don't confuse the porn with reality.
You may have gotten the idea that I think this kind of play is a bad idea. You're right. I think there are ways it can be done safely (blindfold the sub and tell him you're taking pics when you're not; take pics and tell him you're sharing them when you're not; share pics but only after a serious conversation about the consequences), but the scenario you outlined is immoral and quite possibly illegal.
Is this common? Hard to say, but I don't think so. There are certainly assholes out there pretending to be doms who do this sort of thing (think for example about all the 'revenge' websites, where people submit embarrassing or explicit pics of exes--most aren't doms, but it's the same principle). And I suppose there are some serious doms who enjoy this scenario enough that they'll do it without thinking through the issue of consent (or perhaps are too inexperienced to realize the dangers). But I think most serious doms realize that this is both a violation of consent and a threat to the sub's reputation and career and will therefore not play out such a scene the way you've described it.
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