Recent content by frightfully

Thanks everyone - your takes on it are very interesting. Also interesting that for some people the desire to be in control seems comes from earlier feelings of powerlessness - especially as I'd heard that as a 'cause' for some people becoming submissive. I think maybe the whole obedience...

So, I get why I like obeying, but what is the Dom getting out of it? To explain the background, I was chatting with a gentleman of a dominant persuasion, and he was enthusing on the subject of obedience. It occurred to me that I've always sort of assumed that Doms like obedience as a means to...

Thanks for the replies. Tried to talk to him about it, he just replied that the filming didn't have to be secret, just the fact that he was getting a copy. Think he just doesn't really get what the problem is, which doesn't bode well for the future of our relationship. *sigh*

I am currently playing with a new dom, and our interests and limits mainly seem to align, with one major exception. He has on more than one occasion asked me to do things that I feel would involve others in our sex play, and without their consent. i.e. he asked me 'if I would' walk naked...