Your most painful BDSM expeience??

Discussion in 'General BDSM discussions' started by subspace, May 3, 2009.

  1. subspace

    subspace Member

    Okay, so this is a long story to get the question of “What is your most painful BDSM experience either as M/s?†Here is mine:

    After a great night of fairly tame play my top and I fell asleep in each others arms, very peaceful and satisfied. I awoke in the morning with my top between my legs slowly licking me. I wanted to ask him to stop so I could use the bathroom but wasn’t sure if I was allowed to. My top always placed a small chocker necklace around my neck before ‘playing’ and always removed it after as a clear indicator that we were done. It really was helpful because we were not just M/s but also dated exclusively but didn’t have a 24/7 M/s relationship. So, when I woke up I was still wearing the necklace but thought he probably just forgot to take it off the night before. When I started to struggle in his hold I quickly found out that he meant the collar to be on and told me that he was going to keep his mouth between my legs, keep me from cuming until I pissed while I came on his face. Wow, not expecting this at all, we never engaged in piss play before and I never wanted to either. I began to struggle with thoughts of how to get out of this situation (we never used safe words). I really was torn because if I told him I refused to piss in his face I was scared of what might happen but I also felt that it was incredibly demeaning to my top to piss in his face even though he was asking for it. So I decided I couldn’t do what he demanded, I was just not ready to go there so I asked him to stop and let me use the bathroom. My begging him to stop and him refusing while continuing to keep me on the edge of orgasm continued, he really enjoyed the struggle of keeping me still while I begged and pleaded for him to stop. He eventually decided he would let me use the bathroom but warned me that there would be consequences. He gave me a cup and told me to fill it while he watched. He then presented it to me and told me to drink up. Ok again this is not something we ever discussed engaging in and I was really shocked by the request. Again I was left wondering what to do (I have never been a “good subâ€, it takes punishment and being in subspace to get me to try new things). I was no longer turned on, nowhere near my beloved and needed “subspace†anymore and now on the verge of tears at how an amazing night was turning into a horrible morning. He was starting to get angry with me and demanded I drink. With tears running down my face I simply looked up into his eye’s and said “no Sirâ€. I really expected him to throw the cup at me but he did something much worse. He simply and without saying word gathered his things dressed and walked out the door. I immediately wanted to take everything back and just do as he asked but it was too late, he was gone.

    He actually stayed away for 30 days. We saw each other here and there because we attended that same college, had the same social circle. The punishment intensified each time he saw me in public, he would look me up and down then made sure there was eye contact before giving me a disappointed/disgusted look. I had to explain to my friends that knew we were dating that we were just going through a tough time and were spending some time apart but I really didn’t know if he was ever coming back.
    When he did come back it was great for a few months, we played a little rougher gagging and binding were definitely used more but we eventually could not get around the fact that I told him no and he submitted to that, ironic. I still to this day have not participated in piss play, mostly because none of my tops have been interested in that. While this experience was the most painful experience psychologically/emotionally, it taught me so much about the type of sub I am and what kind of top I need. If I had had a stronger top that new how to get me to submit then I am sure this experience would have turned out completely different. A simple gag and good binding with the right top would have had very different results.

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  2. Prissy

    Prissy Member

    I cannot think of one. I accept my punishments as they are needed, and He has never asked me to do something I was uncomfortable in doing, and if he has, he respects my wishes if I say no. The only time that was trying my patience was when he wasn't telling me why I was being punished, and that he left it for me to figure out.
     
  3. Nyx

    Nyx Member

    I too refused to do something for my top and his harsh comment of, 'You may be untrainable.' cut me to the core. It was one of the most painful things to hear said of me.
     
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  4. rikkiann

    rikkiann New Member

    My most painful punishment. this is a good one. It hard to decide between two. The first one is a caning by which i mean a hard caning of 100 strokes. Believe me this hurts really bad. the other one is the only time i have wished i had safeword al.though even that would not have helped. My master rubbed something called
    ICYHOT on my pussy. within minutes it was burning so bad i was screaming and crying. whwn my master saw i was in trouble he untied me and tried to wipe it off with water nothing worked and i couldnt stop screaming finally after 30 or 40 minute of agony it subsided. no damage but the pain was incredble. Later we found out that should be used to counteract it.

    rikki
     
  5. Master C

    Master C Member

    Sounds Painful Rikkian. Icyhot is something a lot of athletes use to soothe aching muscles. That to me sounds way to harsh to use on such a sensitive area.
     
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  6. subspace

    subspace Member

    IcyHot-ouch. I had a similar experience when my top was not satisfied with the shaving job I did. He tied me to the bed and spread Nair all around my pussy. I had never had a bad reaction to Nair before, usually works great but because I had recently shaved it reacted very badly. I ended up with a horrible chemical burn that took almost 2 weeks to heal!
     
  7. This is why it's so important to use safewords or safetoys...any dom who will not stop what they are doing if their sub is in genuine distress should not be doing this. Everyone has their limits, and these should always be respected.

    As for my most painful experience, probably being made to wear wooden clothes pegs on my nipples, and that experience didn't last very long :(
     
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  8. subspace

    subspace Member

    Absolutely OLP, my bad experience has made my subsequent other M/s relationships so much better. After that I became a big believer in discussing limits, those that are okay to push and those that are deal breakers.
     
  9. Erus

    Erus New Member

    What do you use to counteract icyhot?

    I've heard you should try to remove as much as possible with a tissue or something, then use oil (as in olive oil) to dissolve and finally clean the area with a clean tissue.

    I don't know if this works, and would like to know what works "just in case".
     
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  10. Sparrow69

    Sparrow69 Moderator

    after reading your story, i had a smirk. I think he didn't submit. He tortured you mentally, and you by your own volition stated you would have drank your own urine had he come back that day.
    If anything, I say your view of him as weak is what ended any situation.

    As for me, my most painful that I've dealt out, you would have to ask my slaves, but from my days as a slave, my most painful punishment was betrayal.

    FYI: I'm a fan of using icyhot. wipe it off, as nuch as possible with a terrycloth hand towel, then rub the area with baby oil followed by a powder agent or aloe.
     
    Last edited: May 4, 2009
  11. Flingress

    Flingress Member

    my worst experience was being tied to a chair and beaten by a group of schoolmates. until i passed out. they didn't hit my face much bcs they didnt want to leave evidence of their action on me. they just aimed at my torso mostly, and twisted my arms like crazy before they tied me up.

    the funny thing is, back then i had no idea i was into bdsm myself. and it didn't even register for a long while after the incident, or during similar but less intense episodes of violence i kept receiving from the same guys.

    when i look back, i know now that it helped me endure the whole thing... bcs i derived a secret pleasure from the blows landing on my torso, giving me strength to display courage at the face of their assault. i would look right back into their eyes. i did flinch and gasp and groan and scream in pain, but whenever i could direct my gaze i would just target their eyes and stare into theirs. i remember it annoyed the hell out of them. it made me look much braver than i felt.

    years passed and now i know more about myself. i know what my absolute turn-ons are and how they luckily clicked with the kind of abuse my scoolmates intended on me during high school.

    what the heck... sometimes it pays to be an eccentric. :D
     
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  12. When I started my relationship with Obedient little puppy, I used to try and 'comfort' her a little, saying that 'This is going to hurt me far more than it will hurt you' . . . . I don't think she believed me for some reason. :rolleyes:
    For the record, clothes pegs, the British sprung ones, on my nips was ... interesting.
    I am however, taken with what Subspace said about 'deal breakers' and Sparrow's comment on 'betrayal'. I think in this lifestyle, total trust and understanding is everything. If this was lost or broken, I for one would be devastated, sometimes the worst pain leaves no visible mark.
     
  13. ReallyGreen

    ReallyGreen Member

    I'm sorry, I don't have a Greek tragedy or anything to compare with some of you. But my vote goes for 'repeated slaps to the testicles'. Sure the first few are durable, after two minutes I'm pretty-much done for the night.
     
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  14. subspace

    subspace Member

     
  15. subspace

    subspace Member

    sorry my quote thingy didn't work on that last one, you get the point though.
     

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