I don't know what made me start thinking about this again, but I thought I'd share it with everyone here as I am pretty curious to hear your opinions. When my master and I first began playing regularly, he would bring with him the several items of BDSM gear that he already owned when he visited, and take it away with him again when he left. The reason for this was because he did not want me to 'overfamiliarise' myself with it, wanted it to retain some of its mystery as far as I was concerned. But also, he does not like the idea of me using the gear with someone else, which of course I wouldn't, as it is ours to share, and ours alone However, I managed to persuade him to leave it at mine permanently, solely for practicality reasons as my flat is where we play the majority of our games. I have several sex toys, and bits of bondage gear, from before I met him, but everything bought since then has been bought by him (even though I did accompany him to the shops he bought these items from). I have made it clear that I want to contribute my fair share towards new gear, but he will not hear of it as I am unemployed and have very little, if any, money to spare for such lovely items However, this got me thinking. Should these items be bought by the dom (perhaps as a further sign of thir control over their sub), or should the sub be made to buy them (as a sign of humilation, knowing these items will be used on them)? Should it be a joint effort? Or does it matter? And as for the storage of the gear, is it kept hidden/locked away from the sub, or left out for them to familiarise themselves with? So, what are your thoughts on this subject, and which party, the dom or the sub, pays for/stores the gear in your relationship?