I'm just curious as to where people's S&M activities end? Is it just something you do to spice things up in the bedroom, is it a 24/7 lifestyle choice, or somewhere inbetween? For me and my partner, it's a regular part of our sex lives and while we're not too 'extreme' in what we get up to, it would definitely be enough to make most vanilla couples blush. I don't think either of us would enjoy sex very much without it. Occasionally it bleeds over into our regular lives, but not too much (you probably wouldn't guess it by looking at us). So where does everyone else sit?