Ok - this is a little hard for me but I've realised I definately need help! My Wife and I have had some marital troubles. She met someone else and he pressed some buttons for her. The long and short of it is that she now wants to stay with me and we have worked through our problems. However, those buttons that were pressed were BSDM related. She in fact thought I was a bit, let's say, prudish. However, I thought she was! So lack of communication resulted in her being receptive to another mans advances. Not that it doesn't happen right? Anyway, after long discussions, she now realises I am far from prudish and love to dominate her. She loves to be dominated. I know I need to communicate with her fully to make sure I understand what exactly it is that triggers her, but, we also need to get to that place together. So what I tend to do is tell her stories, say things to her and try and press those buttons. I tend to base the stories etc on my own fantasies as they are the only 'resource' I have at my disposal at the moment. But it isn't quite working. I know I need to be patient but the situation has compelled me to want to really get it right - and relatively quickly. At least be moving in the right direction. I guess what I am asking is I need stimulous - ideas perhaps - maybe from other stories upon which to base my actions and make it easier going forward. I try to think of scenarios but I need help with that. Has anyone got any advice about where to look for good content such as that where I am the Master, she is dominated (not as a slave) but punished and abused because I am perhaps unhappy that she has has failed. It needs to be intelligent content (probably stories) with mind control / manipulation (?) going on. I'll need to read and research of course - that I'm certainly happy with. Think 9 1/2 weeks on steroids! She tends to need NOT to act out the fantasy - but I think that will change as I like it - a lot! Hope you can help.