What got YOU into BDSM?

BernieD

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For some reason, i always liked control. Very often i fantasized about having a willing slave, but to me it was just like dreaming about having sex with blue aliens for example, something that doesn't exist.

Around the beginning of 2010, i was looking at news site as usual (i think it was digg.com) and found an article about a women that calling herself a feminist but that was into submission. I didn't think much of it at first, but it just so happened that i found another article about a similar subject (think it was a link to a blog). It made me realize that this sort of things might just exist. I looked around on the net and found out that this was called "BDSM".

Just like mazo, i have no experience in it. In my case however, i dont really intend to ever experience it, but i still find it interesting to read about it.
 
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Sado_Dom

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I've known about BDSM for several years. I have been interested in it for a while. I first learned about it through erotic stories between doms and subs, and I searched somewhat further about it learning about the different relationships there are between the top and bottom.
Someone I used to know would ask to be my slave for roleplay, and at that time I saw myself as being able to be both Master or slave. I also found that less than a year ago I have subtle sadistic tendencies.
It wasn't until several months ago that someone really got me into BDSM, and ever since I constantly crave to go 24/7 into the lifestyle. I still have no real experience in BDSM unfortunately; however, I hope things will work out how I want them to.
 
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I've always been a sub / had sub tendencies. When I was 12 (yeah, I know, I know), I was giving my then boyfriend a blowjob and I asked him to force my head to his cock and MAKE me suck him. He was appalled by that (though he had no problem holding my wrists above my head after I made "cuffs" out of my hair bands and fucking my mouth) and I thought there was something WAY wrong with me. After almost 2 years with him, I upgraded and got a new boyfriend who was great but wasn't into anything sexual at all, so I found myself searching online for porn and chat sites. I ran across a guy somehow, who told me he was something called a "Dominant". A dominant, I thought. How interesting. I talked to him for a long time (I still speak with him occasionally actually), and he took me under his wing, so to speak, and was, for all intents and purposes, my Dom for a good year or so.

So after all that rambling, in short, my answer is that nothing "got me into" BDSM . . . I got myself into this lifestyle.

Does anyone ever end up wondering what vanilla people are like? It seems like such a boring existence . . .
 
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For as long as I can remember, starting with my very first fantasies, I always imagined myself being raped. Never by anyone I knew or anything, I would be a virgin princess or something, lol. As I got older and actually began to have sexual experiences, the fantasy stayed, and actually grew stronger. I never flat out told my high school boyfriend my full fantasy, but I hinted at it and we played around with it, tying me up, rough sex, etc. I always felt guily about the fantasy though, wondering what kind of sick person could actually get off on being raped. As I gained more access to the internet, I began discovering bdsm through porn and erotic stories and chat rooms. Gradually, I realized, it wasn't so much the rape portion of the fantasy that got me off, but the s/m and the feeling of being controlled. I continued looking, reading and researching until I finally understood the workings of D/s relationships. I did a lot of soul searching, and looking back, I was able to start connecting the dots, from my submissive tendencies, to the desire to be controlled, to the enjoyment of erotic pain. It took a while to accept and reconcile the feelings and desires I had with the way I had been raised, but once I did (and found you guys) I was able to really take my first step into this world.

So basically, I've been this way all my life, it's how I'm wired. :)
 
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^^ I kinda knew about it beforehand (but as the stereotyped stuff. I'm ashamed to say I believed the stereotyped crap and told myself I would NEVER be into that stuff - and here we are), but I really didn't get into it until my boyfriend introduced me. I've been easing my way into being a domme, and have found that I enjoy it. I could never be a sub.

I'm really glad I've found this forum. It's taught me so much.
 
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BernieD

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You don't intend on ever experiencing it? May I ask why not?
Reading about it has only increased my craving for an experience.

I guess i didn't really think before posting. Should have omitted the last 2 lines... heh!

Well, to make a short answer, i have nothing in particular against BDSM relationship nor am i ashamed of being interested in it. I simply have a problem with RELATIONSHIPS all together. I am probably the single most anti sociable living being on this planet. For me to simply consider the possibility of ever being close to another human being is absolutely unthinkable.

As for whether or not reading stuff here increase those feeling, i really dont know. I always had those thoughts and fantasies. But i've pretty much learned to completely ignore all my feelings anyway (not just my interest in BDSM), so it doesn't really bother me.
 
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Oho, oho I have thought long and hard about this, and I've been waiting for the right moment to share it with everyone! >: D

Before I was really conscious of it, I was really drawn to dominatrices. I know I'm mentioned it like a hundred times but I saw a lot of films where Lucy Liu wears leather and acts like a hardass. I didnt know why at the time, but I couldnt get enough of those scenes!

Ever since I became sexually aware I've had some kind of sub tendencies. My "boyfriend" in middle school was really emotionally abusive and he humiliated me a lot, and even though it reaaallly pissed me off I kind of craved it. A big part of it was the attention, I eat attention up like candy, and his mean behavior was the best kind for me. Now obviously this was unhealthy, but there was nothing as exciting as being pinned against a locker while someone whispers in your ear (tee hee!)

Then when I dated my second boyfriend I wanted him to be sort of rough with me, but that didn't really out. I was satisfied with the little things though. You know, he would cum on my breasts or grope me. Small stuff.

Then with a girl I had a little relationship with I asked her to tie me up one time and then I tied her up. But I had no idea what I really wanted so it didnt really work.

After that it was pretty much just porn with a lot of rough sex until I started dating my current boyfriend and we both confessed are desires for something kinkier.

yes! My sexual history in a nutshell!
 
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