What are the different" flavors" of sub/Dom.?

Discussion in 'General BDSM discussions' started by EZRA, Jun 4, 2009.

  1. EZRA

    EZRA Member

    I'm my limited experience of this "lifestyle" I have noticed that there seems to be differences in subs as well as Doms.
    My question is simple really but probably not simple to answer.

    Are there different types of subs?
    Are there different types of Doms.?
    and how can you tell them apart?

    I understand that that there are as many variations as there are people involved, I'm just looking for the dominate characteristic features of each "type"

  2. pyroaquatic

    pyroaquatic Member

  3. subspace

    subspace Member

    Check out Sparrow's response in the "Establishing Cominance" thread. Great breakdown of the basic roles.
  4. EZRA

    EZRA Member

    I looked at the link pyroaquatic posted and at the post subspace suggested and realized I haven't made my self clear on what I was asking.
    I'm not talking about the relationship between sub and Dom .I was asking about the different kinds of submissive and different kinds of Dominates.
    although the relationships are fascinating and I'll be getting to soon it's not what I'm asking here.
    For example I've noticed that some sub's prefer pain more than being controlled and some seem to prefer humiliation over pain ect.ect.
    me for another example if hurting me and humiliation me pleases my dom and therefor pleases me.
    And with doms. I ve seen some who just enjoy a good old fashioned beating and some who want improve their subs, sorta of therapy thru S&M.

    If you see what I mean?
    Last edited: Jun 4, 2009
  5. Sparrow69

    Sparrow69 Moderator

    I think I get your meaning. I don't think there are any dedicated names but I've heard Subs referred to as the following:

    Cumslut (sexual sub)
    painslut (pain sub)
    worthless (humiliation sub)
    gutterslut (shared sub)
    house slave (domestic sub)

    and on the flipside, I've heard of masters or doms being referred to as

    Part Timer (bdsm dom only when its convenient)
    Teacher (someone who instructs and directs a scene but never actively participates)

    and my personal favorite

  6. pyroaquatic

    pyroaquatic Member

    I'm sure we could come up with our own personal lexicon of terms. it would be a great BONDING experience.


    i am more of a domestic/pain type sub myself. I wonder if there is a Sensei type.. dominant? well versed in the mystical arts of BDSM.
  7. EZRA

    EZRA Member

    That's me house slave I knew it when I saw it.+ a little cumslut mixed in but I'm a guy that's probably assumed.
    I wonder if it would be worth while trying to codify or define the various traits that differentiate the different types of sub.and Doms?

    (somebody's is going to say something about we don't need labels befor this is over)
    But i feel it would be useful and may help avoid mismatches in sub/Dom relationships.

    p.s. I've always had this fantasy of being the houseboy of some rich hot women."bound" to serve her every whim and desire.
    2 out of three ain't bad.
    Last edited: Jun 5, 2009
  8. Sparrow69

    Sparrow69 Moderator

    Labels exist whether we want them to or not..
  9. We can only be what we want to be.
  10. pyroaquatic

    pyroaquatic Member

    Naming is the particular origin of all things.
  11. EZRA

    EZRA Member

    OK I'LL play

    Name yourself befor someone names you.
  12. pyroaquatic

    pyroaquatic Member

    I am very confused. How do we play this?
  13. subspace

    subspace Member

    Yippie games!
    Is there an emothionslut? I thinks that's me, but I love a little of it all, oh of except domestic. :p
  14. EZRA

    EZRA Member

    you were playing just fine pyro.
    think of something pithy to say about labels.

    Tell me how that works subspace" Emotionalslut?" sounds interesting.
    maybe I'm more of a domesticslut I'll have to try that out, if I like it I might make it my tag line.
    I'll have to see what GOTU thinks of it.
  15. subspace

    subspace Member

    Well I just thought if it so.... for me I crave intense emotion is scenes'. I love the wave of emotion from being made to cry from shame or the look of disappointment on my Top's face to the pride I feel and he shows when I perform well. Whew, yep that's me!

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