What are the characteristics of dominant men?

Discussion in 'General BDSM discussions' started by Anna Karenina, Jan 13, 2010.

  1. Anna Karenina

    Anna Karenina New Member

    Hello dear people,

    I need some help. I do fantasize about being submissive, and not only in the bedroom. But i do not know how far men will go with this. How submissive do doms want their women to be? Do they like "all the way" obedience or only partial? Do they want their women to whimper and cry during punishments or take it bravely?
  2. Everyone is different Anna, just be yourself, discuss things first.
    It's part of the fun discovering each other. :)
  3. master jey

    master jey Moderator

    interesting question
  4. subspace

    subspace Member

    Dont forget to ask yourself how far you will go with this. Every Dom and every sub is different when it comes to likes, dislikes, limits etc. You need to discover what things you like or are willing to experiment with to develop an idea of what kind of sub you are so that you can then begin to look for a Dom that will be able to help meet your needs.
    Good luck and welcome to the forum!
  5. sebastian

    sebastian Active Member

    This is an interesting thread, and I'd like to see more discussion of the question Anna asked in the header, even though it's not quite what she asked in the body of the post. What do people see as the general characteristics of doms? Where does that desire for control come from? I know that for me, it comes in part out of being single and involuntarily celibate for many years. For me, having control over a guy is sort of like getting a drink of water in the desert, even though it's been years since I got past that celibate period. There's certainly much earlier experiences as well, such as being the youngest (by several years) of four boys. I was unable to compete physically and learned to dislike that sense of powerlessness (especially since my oldest brother was pretty violently aggressive toward me growing up). So I guess for me, domming is a way to get away from some of the feelings of powerlessness I had to live with for a long time. Is this sort of thing common in doms, or am I a little odd here?
  6. I have been told that, in my day to day life, I am 'too nice' [easygoing].
    I do have a temper, be it at the end of a long fuse.
    So, I guess I enjoy a sip of that water in the desert too Sebastian.
  7. sebastian

    sebastian Active Member

    That's interesting, because also quite laid back and 'nice', and I also have a temper at the end of a very long fuse. I rarely get angry at people, but when I get frustrated by, for example, my computer, I can get amazingly full of rage, though never to the point of losing control.
  8. pepeluism

    pepeluism Member

    From my times as a Master (it's been a while), I can tell you I preferred total obedience. Also, there's no better sound than the sound of crying, begging and whimpering. But that's just me.

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